Hi all. I’m just looking for a bit of advice I guess.
2 months ago my husband went on a stag do and came back a completely different person. 1 month ago I discovered he had been having an affair with an 18 year old he met while he was there and left us. 4 weeks on they are in a full blown relationship, he’s got a new flat for them to stay in, all over Facebook etc the works.
We have been together for nearly 15 years and I am absolutely devastated. To make things worse I am currently 32 weeks pregnant with his second child. He’s walked away not only from me but our daughters as well and actually admitted to me at the weekend he doesn’t think he can make his daughters a priority just now so won’t be seeing them anymore. My little girl is heartbroken and so torn up by all of a sudden not seeing her dad. I’m just looking to see if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they got their kids through it? I’m so worried about how to cope when the baby is here because it will just be me with my 3 year old and new born. It’s so much change for my daughter in such a short space of time.
I honestly want to curl up under the covers every day but I get up and keep going as best I can. People say one day at a time and we deserve better and I know they are right but I just wish I could see the light at the end of the tunnel and know for sure everything will be ok for my girls. I feel like I’m still in shock most of the time at how much of a selfish **** he has become.
I don’t have any answers for you I’m afraid. I am going through something similar myself. 4 months ago my husband told me he was seeing someone else and he then just left! Leaving me and my 3 children devastated. I don’t even know who he is anymore – he has always been a fantastic dad and wonderful husband (or so I thought!) we were together 17 years.
Its been the the most difficult 4 months of my life and it’s far from over but the way my brain has processed it (rightly or wrongly) is that my husband died – sounds awful but that’s how I actually feel. The person he is now is not the person I married and fell in love with and I also don’t have any choice but to let him, my marriage and my whole life go. I’m keeping focused on starting a new life. We are moving house in January, I’m going back to uni in the evenings (with the help of my family looking after my children!). All I can say is that this is nothing to do with you – it’s him! And I can bet money that he will live to regret his foolish actions.
im sure you are a fantastic Mummy and you will find strength in your babies every day! Take care of yourself and lean on your friends and family for support. There is certainly life after this my lovely, take each day as it comes and one day you will find you have finally turned that corner.
Feel free to message me if you ever want to chat but for now big big hugs- you have got this! Xx