Husband having mid life crisis and left

[Jayne1038]

My husband and I have been together for 27years married for 16 have 3 kids and 1 granddaughter. We are only 41 and 43. Things are stressful at home as my daughter partner and grandaughter live with us. (Moving into own house soon) week and half ago my husband said he needs space and left. Staying at his mums. Thing is he won’t speak to me face to face keeps fobbing me off with excuses he isn’t ready. I am left wondering what the hell is going on and miss him terribly and it’s making me ill we have never been apart this long and he seems really cold and horrible. I get the stress was too much so he went but I need to talk to him. Any advice?

[MrDad]

Give him some space. You’re in a very similar position to the one I’m in; you desperately want to text but that’s the worst thing you can do at this moment. He needs to sit with this decision for a bit.

[Jayne1038]

Thank you, I will give him some space, just so hard isn’t it going against your instincts.

[MrDad]

All I have ever wanted was to text me ex and “be there” for her but it feels counter productive when I do that

[GirlFriday]

Hi,

I was in a similar situation although my ex walked out after 23 years without any reason. I won’t go through the ins and outs they are on here if you choose to look but anyway it made me ill. Eventually I had to give in and go to the docs as I couldn’t  eat, sleep or function. I am almost 2 years down the line and almost 6 months off the ADs I had. Things do get easier and I hope he gives you the chance to talk things through & work them out. I caved after 4 days the first time he left & did text, after all that time together I wasn’t prepared to give up just like that, the second time he left I didn’t bother it was just too painful.

Keeping my fingers crossed u figure things out

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