Husband has left me!
21 August 2020 at 6:54 pm #43137
My husband left me and our almost 1 year old 2 weeks ago. He says hes no longer in love with me, hes staying with a friend and pops in to see our daughter everyday. He wont tell me what’s going on or talk about what happened. I believe he is having some anxiety issues… he says he misses our daughter. One day he will say he doesnt know if things will change another day he says this is long term. There is no one else and I believe him. I feel sick constantly, struggling to eat and sleep. I love him so much, just wish he would come back.21 August 2020 at 7:37 pm #43140
this sounds bad and I couldn’t probably eat nor sleep in your situation as well. Do you have friends or family to take care of you?25 August 2020 at 11:33 pm #43226
Hi I’m kind of the same my husband left me Sunday says he’s angry at me. So at the moment he dosnt want to be in a relationship whats to get a house so he can see the kids. Then maybe work on us. One minute I feel a bit of hope being toether then it’s gone again I’m so confused. We’ve been together for 10 years had our ups and down. But I think we could work on things he says at the moment no he dosnt want to but maybe in a week or two. I’m heart broken27 August 2020 at 12:56 am #43266
I went through this when my youngest was a tiny baby. The frustration of not being able to understand why this happening was overwhelming, I also couldn’t eat or sleep. These feelings were due to overwhelming anxiety, they will improve in time. I managed to care for my kids and meet their needs and in time I learned to look after myself too.
Your story may be different to mine but all the protestations came to him moving on with his life very quickly. Fast forward two and half years, I amicable with him and his partner after lots of heartache and if I could turn back the clock I wouldn’t change him leaving as he was not the person I thought he was.
Use your support network, be they family, friends (people who will let you cry, scream and shout) or the samaritans, don’t suffer alone.
You can survive this, you have a beautiful little person who is relying on you for everything and every day that you get up and care for them is another day closer to finding you.
Do take care, I wish you well27 August 2020 at 9:27 pm #43289
I’m also going through a similar thing. My other half left me and our two year old daughter last Monday. The pain is just awful, I’m trying to hold it together for my daughter but it’s so hard. I haven’t eaten or slept much this week, I just feel a pain in the pit of my stomach and keep crying. I don’t know how anyone could walk out on such a young child, It’s so awful and I’m left feeling like a failure. I just keep asking myself what I did wrong (he hasn’t told me!). I felt like I was the only one going through this and that everyone else is happily married/loved up. Reading your post made me sad but also made me realise that I’m not alone and you aren’t either. We’ll find a way to get through. Just not sure how yet!27 August 2020 at 9:51 pm #43293
I can completely relate. My husband of 5 years left me and my daughter (nearly two) around 6 months ago with almost no warning. I’ve had regular counselling and now realise that he isn’t who I thought he was, despite 10 years together. Having a baby is difficult on your relationship and he couldn’t cope with that. I grew and adapted, he didn’t. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but you will be okay again. He has let you and your baby down, not the other way around. Find ways, small things which make you feel grounded, less anxious, more yourself and stick to them. Find a couple of people who can make space for your feelings and let them out. I found writing really helped too. I know it feels impossible, but honestly you will be okay. Small steps, one day at a time. You are not alone27 August 2020 at 9:56 pm #43294
Bubbles120 – how did you get through the first days/weeks when he left? Any tips would be appreciated because each hour seems to drag. The start of each day seems so daunting.