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    oscar48
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    Six weeks ago my husband left me and my son. Long story but i didn’t see it coming.

    Clearly I’m blaming myself

    He’s surprised that I’m surprised and seems to have checked out a long time ago. He doesn’t want to try again nor does she want to seek help.

    Im devastated and struggling to get over it.

    Any words of wisdom? places to get help?

    He wants to be a shining light to others who have split up in how to deal with childcare and splitting of assets.

    #62714 Report

    Andrew uk
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    I’m sorry it’s tough at the moment. If you want to chat, i might not be able to offer much advice but i can be a listening ear.

    #62715 Report

    oscar48
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    Thank you. I appreciate it. I’ve never felt this pain before. Was hoping to see if/ how others got through it.

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    Andrew uk
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    Oscar message me if you want.

    Keeping busy helps. I get out and go walking. Early nights. Tv too.

    #62722 Report

    oscar48
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    I try to get out as much as I can. It’s tough with my son sometimes

    #62818 Report

    pixie_mama
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    Hi oscar48,

    Sorry to hear of the hard time and hurt that you’re going through. It sounds like there’s a lot to process, with the shock, grief and change. I know six weeks might feel like a long time but it’s still pretty early days in your journey and natural to be feeling what you’re feeling right now.  You’ll get stronger though.

    It sounds great that you’re getting out when you can. Do you have some support among friends/family/any toddler groups you go to?

    When my husband and I separated I felt really low for a while – even though I’d expected and was prepared for it. I found it actually quite helpful to go and have a little cry here and there! To give those feelings some release after trying to “be there” for my kids all day. I’d also plan little treats for myself when I could. Just small, cheap things like a nice bath with bubbles, something a bit special for breakfast, time to read a book with a story I could get lost in, something creative. I wonder if there’s some nice things you can do for yourself when your son’s asleep.

    Good luck x

    #62821 Report

    oscar48
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    Hi. Thank you. I cry most days. 6 weeks is not long but long enough for him as he wants the house sold to move on. I’m feeling so many things I’ve never felt before. The pain is horrific. I don’t feel like I’m going to get any stronger without him.
    so far I’ve just started to eat properly once the boys asleep. That’s pretty much my treat.
    tragic!

    #62858 Report

    pixie_mama
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    Sounds good to be making positive steps like eating properly, even if they feel small steps.

    All the stuff that comes with selling a house, splitting finances etc sounds a lot to think about when you’ve so much to get your head round and you’re feeling low. I’m sorry that he’s moving so fast with that whilst you’re struggling.x

    #62860 Report

    oscar48
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    Thank you. I can’t believe how quickly it’s all moving. I just can’t believe he wouldn’t fight for us.
    nothng I can do about it- I didn’t get a chance. I’m gutted.
    thank you

    #62998 Report

    Markycc
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    Hi please remember you haven’t done nothing wrong  live for the moment and look after your son he is the most important thing in your life, never ever let him become second best, tell your ex to jog on as your love for your son is priceless x

    #63071 Report

    oscar48
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    Thank you. I must have done something wrong for him to leave. We’d been trying to get this family for ages. It’s just so sad

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