Hi all, I have just joined and just really needed advice, or a sounding board. My husband and I married in 2012 (my 1st marriage ended in 2008 after I caught my then husband cheating). From my current marriage we have a 5 year old son together. For past 3 years things have been tough, we are arguing a lot (mainly about his lack of help around housework and spending time with our son). I suggested counselling but he refused, I suggested a few days away from each other and he refused. During lockdown things got worse, I was working from home whilst he was on furlough but I was still doing housework and looking after our son whilst husband did bare minimum. So in June I emailed a mediator explaining the background and asked for advice. She replied saying she can help but if its too far gone then we should consider divorce and discuss contact for our son. On Monday my husband snooped in my emails, found that email and went mad, he said he was being accused of being an incompetent dad. So today he packed up and left saying he wants nothing more to do with me or our son. How can someone walk away from their own son??? My heart is breaking every time I look at my son and I’m trying so hard to hold it together 😪
My son will be 6 in Feb, I know he has gone to his mum’s, the house we live in is one I bought before I even met him so there won’t be any argument about that. No contact since he packed up and left this morning, gave me his set of house keys and said I may as well start divorce proceedings. Couple of my close friends know and they reckon he will be back in few days when he realises how much he misses our son, but I highly doubt it.