How to meet new people?
27 December 2018 at 2:50 pm #18953
Just wondering if anyone has any good ideas in this respect. Clubs and groups in the area I live in seem lacking, I’ve tried online dating (very hit and miss I find), I’ve posted on here before and very few people seem to live around where I am (Hampshire, Wilts, Berkshire border – I’m in Andover). I’ve even given the meetup app a try, but again there seems little going on locally. In my day to day life I seen to see the same faces and don’t tend to meet many new people in general. I relocated to where I am to be with my ex nearly 10 years ago and am now finding myself quite isolated from friends / family who mostly live an hour away. I must admit I was quite content with home life and seeing friends / family every couple of months or so but after separating from my ex in 2017 and moving into my own place earlier this year I know I have to build up more of a social life locally. But I’m at a bit of a loss at the moment as to where to start. I’m hoping in 2019 to improve my social life locally, rather than just relying on old friends and family who live further afield every time I want to do anything. Any ideas are most welcome. Thanks.
Adam27 December 2018 at 6:17 pm #18961
I am in similar situation in Birmingham:) I joined local crossfit gym..meet some people at work…but thats about it. Wish it was easier.27 December 2018 at 8:56 pm #18963
Yes it’s not easy. Quite easy to become a bit isolated. I know people at work but a lot are different age ranges and other than the odd work night out every few months I wouldn’t really socialise with them outside of work. A lot of people I work with are in their 50’s and spend their spare time with husbands / wives, grown up Children etc. I have a son who will be 3 next month and have him 7 nights out of 14 but the other 7 nights it would be good to do something but I mainly stay in watching TV. I just joined the local leisure centre, maybe I’ll meet people there but the couple of classes I’ve done so far it hasn’t happened. It’s difficult. At 35 I thought the rest of my life was pretty set (complacent I know), at nearly 37 I know I have to rebuild my life certainly socially as I definitely feel life could stay this way for a long time if I don’t put myself out there more and meet people. But unsure where to start.1 January 2019 at 10:56 pm #19122
this is exactly why I’ve just become a member on here, seems there are so many of us in the same situation. I’m lucky and do have good friends who invite me out, and am also fortunate to have some spare cash so I can do things, but have very little folk to do it with. I’m struggling to meet other folk my age who want to go out and try new things, go away for a few days on the weekends without the kids etc, go to concerts, festivals, whatever it is. I tried the meet up groups last year, but sorry to say, I never met anyone I clicked with. had some disastrous times with the online dating, and it’s not necessarily a partner I want, it’s just more mates for more options…..x1 January 2019 at 11:30 pm #19123
Thanks for the reply. It is definitely a difficult situation and as you say i think a lot of people experience similar issues. I think it is the main reason I joined up with this site. I’m happy driving an hour or so to meet up with people but so far I’ve not met anyone off here, I’ve only messaged people now and again on here. I’m quite surprised actually so few people seem to live down South on here… Or maybe it’s me and they don’t want to interact 😂3 January 2019 at 7:49 am #19182
I’m not far from you Adam, I’ve sent you a PM 😊 sounds like you’re doing the right thing joining the leisure centre and don’t forget, this time of year can feel very lonely.3 January 2019 at 9:54 am #19185
Hi Adam try doing some voluntary work. If you are able to do so.made lots of new friends volunteering for crisis before my daughter was born!3 January 2019 at 5:00 pm #19209
Thanks for the advice, I will look into that.
Adam3 January 2019 at 8:22 pm #19221
Totally understand how you are feeling. I’m from Herts. Very small network of family which means meeting people without the kids is hard. Time of year hasn’t helped my emotions with friends having large family gatherings etx. Me and the kids have felt isolated . Haven’t been able to get out even to park etc. Roll on spring time !3 January 2019 at 8:37 pm #19222
Yes I think the time of the year definitely does not help. It’ll be nicer when the weather improves and you can enjoy getting out more. I think even though I have my son half the time I do have it easy compared to some, even though kids are great, i certainly feel for those who do most to all of the childcare as it is hard to do things for yourself then. I guess this is where this forum is good as at least you can express the difficulties to people who understand.