How to heal

[LuciecParticipant]

My ex left me when I was 7 months pregnant for a women he worked with we had two other children age 6 and 3 we had been together 15 years and never married

he married this women within 6 months of leaving when our new born was a few moths old and they also went on to have a baby

he choose New Year’s Day 2016 to announce this now after lots of legal  battles he get all 3 boys next weekend and I really thought I’d be ok by now but actually I’m  not these boys have no contact for 10 months and now he gets to waltz back in and upset them all again how is this fair

I have held it all together and now I feel back to square one

 

 

 

[./Participant]

Hi and welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing.  You are not back to square one, you will find after so little contact he has a lot of making up to do and your kids will have high expectations, for them they may have taken time with you forg whereas this is an opportunity to rekindle lost time with their dad but make no mistake they will be expecting the world from him as he has let them (and you) down so as much as they will be pleased to see him it will be very easy for him to fall short.  When they return to you they WILL see the contrast and realise who has their back and puts the time in.  Dont be thinking he gets to walz back in cause your kids won’t see it that way, they are hyper aware of situation even from an early age.  Try to take the time to yourself to do sonething u couldn’t do when u got kids in tow….you been looking after them solidly 10 months so take time to look after yourself too now you’ve got a little respite.

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