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    Bazzlem
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    I have felt rubbish ever since becoming a single parent.  I have this feeling of nerves times a million.  How do you feel good being a single parent?

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    Jsmoove
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    It’s a bad feeling which will fade in time bazz,as long as my kids are happy I’m happy,u need to forget about the past and plan for the future,U need to focus on yourself and your child,wat I done was I started to exercise and lift weights things that use to make me happy before I was married,as I lost my identity while I was married,I started reading self help books to get rid of the anxiety I was dealing with after the split,u need to find happiness in yourself first,before you pursue another relationship,I think you should try counselling mate sometimes it’s good to talk to a professional mate and don’t be ashamed to,it gave me the confidence to move forward and focus on my kids and myself

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    Gingey28
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    Hi its hugely tough and scary at times but everytime you should always praise yourself for what you do. I used to be very critical, i am still in parts but i think not sure a lot of people could manage as well as me. I have my off days and struggles but its human nature, stress, tiredness and this lockdown also doesnt help

    We are all pretty similar in terms of we all have our days where we feel a bit down and are we doing a good job. We should all take time to reflect on good

    Ive just got out of a rly bad situation taking a while for feelings to shift and will continue but ive made a change for a hopefully happier future and meet someone right for me

    Here to chat anytime

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    Hope76
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    Hi all, I have been a single parent for a while now & I remember feeling guilt, worry, stress, anxiety – sometimes even after 5yrs of going it alone I still feel that!
    but it certainly does get better – your child just needs you to love them, be positive, stay strong for them….you will get through it.
    you certainly do need to leave the past where it is, concentrate on you & your little one….don’t put a time limit on ‘finding yourself’ again. Don’t worry about what people think of you – being a single parent is a really tough job & until you are in the situation no one really understands, if you feel you need counselling – go get it, there is absolutely no shame in it. It is far worse to try cope with all those feelings alone!

    Please don’t ever worry about other people’s judgement of you either…they are insignificant sin your life. As long as your little one loves you….that’s all you need

    take care now & stay strong

     

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    Will
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    Hello fellow single parents,

    I separated from my wife only a few days ago.  There are so many raw emotions it’s very hard to focus on anything right now.  Both of us have remained outwardly calm and controlled in front of our children but both kids (9 and 12) recognise the tension and unhappiness.  I constantly have to hold my tongue so as not to tell them too much and upset them.  We have yet to work out a schedule for when the children will be with each of us.  My work schedule pre covid was irregular with travel.  I am concerned once the travel starts up again I will be reliant on my ex to cover me.  It’s so odd.  I do not want to rely on her after she broke my trust but I’m going to have to find a way.  Sat here in bed pondering of better things…  Firstly I will be the best dad I can for my wonderful children.  I must also invest in me to build myself back up from this.  I will start new activities, meet new people, broaden my horizons, indulge in the hobbies I really love.

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