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    emmaplustwox
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    Hello, I currently have a 6 year old and have found out I’m about a month and a bit pregnant again, I have wanted a sibling for my little one since she was born so I’m very excited. However things with her dad (also the dad to my new pregnancy) have gone sour. We have always been a bit off and on but I do love the bones of him. Unfortunately he has a new job and will be moving 3 hours away, he says he will try come down when he can and be there for scans etc and the birth. I’m not 100% sure on his word, I’m just looking for any advice on how it is to be on your own with two? All I’ve hear is people say “oh you won’t be able to cope on your own with two” “you won’t know what’s hit you with two” etc etc etc. Obviously I know it’s going to be hard and probably will have days when I have a melt down but I’m determined to be the best I can be for my children. So any advice on coping with two? And how hard is it to manage school run and nursery run etc? Thank you

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    Sherima
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    Ignore these people , they are very negative and you don’t want to be around people like this.

    It’s me and my girl and I worked up and until I had my child and returned to work when she turned 10 months old. I.think your  little one will go to a free nursery when they turn 3 years old so I would not worry too much . I always tell people to stock up on essential s and have them delivered.before you are due   Also there are baby groups are free so you can go to that and get out and  socialize.

    You will be surprised where your strength comes from and if your partner says he will help then just keep an open mind . Just think of the future and be positive. I know it’s hard and its natural  to.have doubts. I.have no idea where my strength came from and we are happy and ok some times things go pear shapebut  you will be just fine

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    emmaplustwox
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    Thank you for your reply. Yeah the new baby will probably be in nursery when I have to go back to work so will probably be before 3 years old unfortunately. My 6 year old was in nursery from 1 and I managed. Yes there is a lot of negative people around unfortunately.

    My daughters school is right near my house and the nursery is a short bus ride away. I wouldn’t even call him my partner anymore to be honest. He’s being very selfish and insensitive at the moment. Saying I’m stopping him from going by making him feel guilty when I mention the fact I think I’m going to struggle. He’s not helping around the house with anything, even though I’ve started to get a rounder tummy already and uncomfortable already.

    But hey ho, I’m sure I’ll manage.

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    Sherima
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    If your child will attend .private nursery then the childcare is practically all year round apart from Christmas and Easter. You can use this to your advantage like go shopping before you pick them up. Our nursery closed at 7pm but I picked my daughter up early as I finished at 4pm.

    Now she’s at school our nanny fell sick with and I didn’t have help for 7 weeks . I had a little cry & it sorted itself out and I’m not angry and frustrated. The nanny was with us since my daughter was 10 months old and  use to meet my girl off the school bus and give her something to eat. She’s now stopped working because she turned 75 and obviously the sickness has drained her . My daughter now goes to the child minder and I’m so lucky that the school bus takes her there .

    You can do anything you want to. The key thing is that you are working so not dependent on money from someone

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