How do you pass the time with your kids?
13 January 2018 at 2:29 pm #6803
Ive recently separated from my husband. I found out he was having an affair. I’ve had to move out and leave almost everything and it’s all such a mess.
Im really struggling with my depression at the moment, and with this on top it’s so difficult.
My question is, how do you entertain your kids? When I have my son all weekend, I love spending time with him, but it’s so difficult when it’s almost impossible to get out of bed. I’m not sure how to fill in that time with things that are going to be good for both of us, and make the most of the time we do have together.
I don’t have a car, so I’m looking for things that aren’t too costly, but that a 4 year old boy will enjoy that anyone else has found to be good.13 January 2018 at 3:59 pm #6808
Hi Elsie, what area are you from? Depression is awful though I’ve noticed in your other posts that you’re studying, that’s a really positive thing to secure a decent future for you and the little guy. Do you have folks around you for support and to make you smile? We’re (me & 3kids) are quite outdoorsy so geocaching (google it) was always a fun way to kill an hour or 2, it’s free and got the kids and me out of the house.13 January 2018 at 6:59 pm #6812
Hi Dmp, thanks for the reply. I’m in south Cumbria, and yes, I honestly don’t know where I’d be if I hadn’t started studying as I’d previously given up pursuing a career so my husband could have one! I’ve never heard of geocaching, but I will google it now, thanks for the tip 😊 Three Kids sounds like a lot of work, although I guess they probably entertain each other and can help you out a bit more too. It’s difficult not to just stay in front of the tv all day, especially when you don’t have any plans!13 January 2018 at 7:48 pm #6814
I’m also an independent type, can’t say it’s easy but on top of 3 kids, I work 30 hours and I’m just starting my final year of MSc! The kids are pretty good, we tend to do a lot of activities together, tbh it’s an opportunity for my to relive my youth 😂 That’s my down time! I bought a touring caravan 6 years ago, and I’ll take the kids off, last year we bought kayaks and headed to the lakes and climbed our first mountain (if you can call Lattrigg a mountain), my youngest is only 6 and he just joins in whatever we’re doing18 January 2018 at 11:24 pm #6960
I agree with DMP, I find getting outdoors is key and also burns their energy 😀. I’m not far from the Peak District so when the boys were younger we’d put on backpacks, mine with a picnic etc theirs had a few treats, notebooks, pencils, little pots for if they find a bug or leaves etc and we’d on an ‘adventure’. It’s actually just a walk but anything to make it fun. I found the easiest way to ensure it happens is to set expectations and get them excited so I made sure we went and they weren’t disappointed. This sometimes led to us going in the rain but wellies and splashing added to the fun.18 January 2018 at 11:49 pm #6962
Hi, I joined my local Woodcraft group with my boys. Woodcraft Folk is a national youth organisation that is cheap/free depending on your circumstances and is a fantastic way to meet other parents and kids and most groups have outdoor camps, hikes, activities and much much more!! Check online to see if there is one in your area, its worth a look into. I found it a life saver and my boys LOVED it !19 January 2018 at 11:27 am #6969
I wrote a list of every single thing I could do locally that’s free or cheap lol!
We literally work through it on spare days. It includes:
- Visiting garden centres
- Beach walks
- Canal walks
- Watching the trains/boats/aeroplanes
- Various playpark- take a lunch with is and flask of hot chocolate this time of year!
- Gardening – mainly veg and it’s great when you get to pick and cook it!
Hth19 January 2018 at 11:02 pm #6976
I found depression very hard throughout my experience as a single parent. What I used to do is take the children for a walk in the woods or in the park letting them choose an activity while we were there. I would then take a camera and take pictures them laughing and enjoying themselves and look back on the pictures which used the lift my mood when I was alone. Also museums have activities on every weekend which can be free and turn into your childs favourite outing, with something new to see every time.19 January 2018 at 11:21 pm #6978
Reading these posts give me inspiration, the energy and thought that we all put into the time spent with our kids even through hard times is something to be very proud of. It brings a memory to mind of one summer night many years ago, my boys wanted to take their duvets outside and sleep on the trampoline all 3 of us! All night! So we did, pillows, duvets, teddy the lot!! ( I didn’t sleep much at all! (They did of course) it was silly and free and spontaneous. I’ll remind them of that!