How do you get through the first weeks?

[Bluemama21]

It’s been 6 days now and I’m a mess. I need to get it together for my kids but I’m struggling.

Any help or advice will do

[steve3334]

hi,

 

your kids live with you I take it? I would advise to go out with them for some fresh air regularly. go to the park.

keep in regular contact with friends or family. Don’t isolate yourself. there are lots of life/relationship coaches on youtube that deal with break-ups etc. look them up. I found them very useful. also consider doing breathing exercises. look up wim hof.

[Gummibear123]

I wish I wldnt have been so businesslike the first few weeks.It’s been many Years now but when I look back I feel sorry for myself & the way I was so harsh on myself.On the other hand it was the only way I knew to keep myself going(& going,& going,and going….) as I felt completely crushed and broken & it was so difficult as my 4 kids were very young.It’s a hard world sometimes & other ppl won’t understand .Treat yourself,doesn’t have to be anything too big,but you are so important right now bc the kids will be depending on You and it Really will make you feel better.You are so worth it! Sending you ❤,from someone who’s been there.

[robbent]

Get the cleaners in, rearrange your house and make it like a New Years resolution, fresh start, it will take time but time is a healer

[Bluemama21]

Thanks guys. Stupid thing is cause of covid he hasnt left yet or have we told the kids so I’m trying to keep it normal as possible.

Feeling angry today.

[robbent]

Omg what a nightmare, roll on the vaccine

[Gummibear123]

Won’t  BlueMaMa will get herself arrested if she ‘gets the cleaners in’ is that legal with covid happening?😂 So confusing.

[Bluemama21]

I feel like chucking everything out.

Be done with it all. 😖

[robbent]

It is legal to get cleaners in, they are classed as key workers and it is heaven sent when you feel a bit down.

[Gummibear123]

Act in haste,repent at leisure. But different things work for different people.

Funnily enough I think the original was “Marry in haste,repent at leisure”.Now that’s a coincidence.

[Gummibear123]

If that’s legal can we have a keyworkers party? If you check the list of keyworkers,nearly everyone’s on it.

[robbent]

Ha yes I know but you can only have one, not much of a party, I did marry in haste as my ex was in the family way ha, I have 10 kids altogether but three of my older ones have families of their own now, we are all very close though.

[Bluemama21]

Its just mixed emotions its overwhelming 😖

Sometimes it’s that much coping with the kids is hard. Specially seems they dont know yet

[robbent]

It isn’t easy by any means but it is doable, just focus on the positives if you can, try not to let your partner get you down

[Bluemama21]

Thank you everyone for all your help. ❤

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