How do you fill the lonely quiet evenings?
2 August 2021 at 9:12 pm #57149
Hi, I’m new to gingerbread. I’m a single mum to 3, and my eldest is preparing to leave for uni this September. It’s always just been me and the kids and now he is preparing to leave home I have lots of weird, mixed up emotions. I’m obviously proud as punch and so excited for him, but I’m going to miss him like crazy and I’m a little worried about how quiet and lonely things are going to get when he moves out. The other 2 boys are younger and things are going to be so different. I’ve been thinking about doing an online learning course to fill the lonely evenings, but was wondering what other single parents do to fill the quiet times? Thanks x5 August 2021 at 12:07 pm #57231
I fill quiet times with work, spending time on forums like this, facebook. gaming. travelling.5 August 2021 at 7:25 pm #57251
I sew and am trying to teach myself to knit! I’m absolutely useless at it but I shan’t be beaten by a ball of yarn and two sticks.7 August 2021 at 8:48 pm #57325
The evenings do get lonely.
I think a course is a great idea. I watch far too much TV! I have invested in a yoga mat and dumbbells so I can exercise at home, and as Steve says online forums can help you connect with other people7 August 2021 at 11:28 pm #57328
if you ever wanted to learn a new language, then I recommend an app called duolingo. makes it so easy 🙂8 August 2021 at 12:29 am #57334
10 August 2021 at 8:55 pm #57428
<li style=”text-align: left;”>I have found as a single parent my son has become my whole life, theres been many struggles on the way and I’ve had to focus on being a parent and overcoming issues as they arise sorting stuff out, not that I’ve always been successful or got everything perfect, sometimes it’s felt like it’s been one thing after another..its taken a lot of energy…lockdown gave me time to think and I dread him leaving him and like you said cj, I’ll be happy and proud for him when it happens, but it will expose a huge chasm in my life.. Gosh I don’t even know if I will have anything interesting to say or how my mind or how I will adjust. I know its a natural step in life but it’s so long since I had a life myself I can’t imagine how I will navigate it… I think you’re idea of an online course is great, there’s all kinds of free courses and paid ones too, I even found a free one about the science of happyness run by one of the big American universities (ironically I didn’t have time or energy to finish it!). maybe the extra space and time will open up new things for you….maybe you’ll make a new friend who is a great listener or is really funny or just has stuff on common with you.. You sound like your mind is open so that will open new experiences for you too… Some great ideas suggested here by others too.. Maybe have a think too about what you’re interested in or passionate about, might lead you to a course or voluntary work that might be fulfilling…
Well his uni place was confirmed today, so off he’ll go soon lol Steve, I live in Wales and can only fluently speak English – I think I need to nail Welsh (it’s soooooooo hard!) before I take on another language lol
I think I will nosey what online courses there are and who knows what doors it will open.10 August 2021 at 9:56 pm #57431
I understand how you feel! My son is off to uni this September and it will just be me and my 9yr old daughter! I do a lot of competitions in the evening as well as watching some series/movies! Trying to find other things that doesn’t involve my phone! 😂4 September 2021 at 1:32 pm #58721
Baking? Learn a language, do an online course? Read all those books you’ve been wanting to read.