I love my son and literally spend all of my time when I’m not working looking after him, taking him to tennis and other activities. But when he goes to bed, it’s difficult. Especially with the darkness and no option to go and do some gardening or sit outside. I’m really not a fan of being indoors. How does everyone cope? Television is not much company either and there’s only so much reading or learning one can do.
My low time is between 8-9pm after I put my son to bed cleaned the house. The perfect tine to cudldle with a partner, Definitly my lowest, what is worse there no help organisations olen thst tims to soeak to except sumaritans I have been planning andmaking Christmas presents, seems to keep me busy.
Oh being content on being on my own every ever, of course I can never be, but what choices do we actually have.
Our children come first, for me that would include bring a third party into our home , so I have no choose.
I am not sure of the age of your children, mine is 4 I had a break up with a partner in June, not his mothers and he stills mention her, so for me to bring someone else in again, they would have to be someone so special.
Other option find another mum with a child and have sleep overs. The kids will enjoy it, and got someone to chat with, could take it in turns to visit each others house.
4 is such a lovely age. I remember when he was 4. I guess the younger they are the more they tire you out. The earlier you go to bed. The older they get (he’s 11) the less you need to do for them and the more time you have for your self. That’s when it gets hard.
People suggest leaving him in the house and me going to the gym. But that just doesn’t feel right and I don’t think I would ever get to do that.
At times I do enjoy being on my own. But some days it would be nice I guess to have a companion.
Sleepovers is a good idea. When you have a friend who has a child. It’s difficult to find friends or people who are in the same situation.
I guess you just have to always look for the good in any given situation.