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    Ejakeman123
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    Hi everyone,

    I will try to keep this as short and sweet as I can. A bit of background, I’m 25 and recently became a single parent to two girls aged 3 and 6. I was with my ex for 10 years and married for 7. So its been 4 months since we separated and I feel ok. A lot has happened in those 4 months and its made me stronger and helped me become a better mom.

    So my question is, how do you all cope on a night time when the kids are asleep? Especially on a weekend when you know that their dad is out having fun and your stuck at home like nothing has changed. (I love my children and I wouldn’t change them for the world and I love being a mom) but there is always that thought in the back of your mind. I mean I have help from my parents and close friends when I do go out but its not very often as all my friends are happily married and to be honest it makes me kind of jealous (selfish I know) but I would never wish their happiness away!
    I have been feeling quite low this week and a half as it’s sunk in that I am on my own with two children and I’m doing it all by myself. And it is hard and I’ve seen this site a few times but never had the courage to sign up until now. I look forward to speaking to other single parents out there. After all we have to stick together 🙂

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    SoccerDad
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    You’ve come to the right place, there’s a lot of people in the same boat and it’s a real God send. Just coming on here in the evenings helps, try the Friday Night Social thread for a good chat any night of the week.

    SD

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    welshdad
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    Definitely cone to the right place, it’s a great forum and you’ll be made to feel welcome 🙂

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    Ejakeman123
    Participant

    Thank you both 🙂

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    GirlFriday
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    Hi, we all talk rubbish on here and keep each other company x

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    Ejakeman123
    Participant

    GirlFriday, that’s just the thing I need 🙂 x

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    GirlWithTheMostCake
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    Welcome to the group. If you have willing babysitter’s then use that, don’t let your perception of how happy others are cloud that…or ask that they switch off their “smugness” and have a “partner talk free” night.

    I have no babysitter’s and haven’t been out in nearly 5 years.

    X

    #25422 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Well you have come to the right place, think the sun has brought everyone out to play tonight 🙂

     

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    Ejakeman123
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    Thanks for the advice GWTMC. And wow 5 years – pure dedication 🙂
    GirlFriday even better, more company lol.

    #25429 Report

    GirlWithTheMostCake
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    Ejakeman123 – nope, just no other options.

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    Ejakeman123
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    GWTMC – sorry to hear that hun. Hope things improve x

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    SoccerDad
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    EJ123, you’re also still only 25 and have so much time to rebuild and find someone new at some point if and when you wanted; this is a temporary situation right now, and you will feel better.

    I’m early 40’s and it’s a bit of an overwhelm to start with (and is still sometimes), but i’m now enjoying being in control of my own life and focusing on making sure my relationship with my kids is the best it can be; if I decide to roll the dice again in the future, so be it, but enjoy the break and take time out to be you 😀

    #25433 Report

    Ejakeman123
    Participant

    Thank you SD for the advice. That’s what I have been doing, Ive been finding out who I am without someone else being by side 24/7. Ive actually took the plunge and going back to college in September to train to become a Teaching Assistant. I enjoy the break and love being on my own and it just being me and the kids. However it does get a bit lonely lol.

    #25437 Report

    SoccerDad
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    Good for you going back to college. My soon to former MIL suggested looking up single parent groups in the local area to find people in the same boat and stay being sociable, and that’s how I stumbled across this site!

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