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    Sylvia38
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    I’m finding things hard at the minute when I see couples out and about.Ive split up with my husband and I suppose I’m scared of being on my own.

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    GirlFriday
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    Hi, I know how you feel I went to c Parcs on a holiday which had been booked before we separated within 2 months of the separation as I didn’t want to upset DD & her best friend by cancelling.. that was really hard, I am a few more months down the line now & whilst it does still hurt, it is lessening. Hang in there x

    #23397 Report

    Sylvia38
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    It’s hard!You have to be brave for the Children but when I’m by myself at Night I start to panic thinking I’ve no one who loves me anymore I’ve no one to hold my hand.It seems I see happy couples everywhere

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    GirlFriday
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    I know how you feel & mine turned out to be a lying cheat after 23 years together it’s taken a lot to try & get over & I am not quite there yet even after almost 8 months!.. how recently have u separated?

    #23399 Report

    Sylvia38
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    Only recently but we were married for 15 year.

    I just don’t understand how you can’t have feelings for someone still!He seems fine while I’ve been left feeling I wasn’t good enough.

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    GirlFriday
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    Snap! It’s so hard to understand…

    #23405 Report

    Sylvia38
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    I’m pleased you’ve said it gets easier over time.I just can’t picture myself with anyone else and feel the one person I could turn too seems fine.

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    GirlFriday
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    I am fine as long as I don’t hear from him which now the house is sold is never..He has burnt his bridges with both our girls at the moment they are barely speaking & youngest hasn’t seen him since Oct 😞

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    Sylvia38
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    That’s the thing it’s not just your marriage you lose it’s the house and everything else.

    Your poor girls.I don’t think men realise what they do!We are left picking up the pieces

    #23408 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Yes it has been everything.. it’s been a v tough time but my parents and close friends have been & continue to be amazing 🙂

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    Sergio01
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    Hello Sylvia38 and GirlFriday

    I know exactly how you feel, after 19 years of marriage, my wife(ex) break the news to me that she wanted a divorce, saying that she hasn’t loved me for years and that I look like “An old sad man”. (This happened after she wanted to renew our vows, in front of my two disabled childrens [ December 2018]) On the 13th Janurary 2019, he broke the news to me. I was (and still am) in shock, my life was around my family and house. Yes I have my childrens with me but also when I go outside, I see couples holding hands, hugging, smiling, being happy or just walking close to each other and I think  about how I’ll have to start from 0 again, and the idea terrifies me. Plus, in the last 4 months my ex wife managed to lower my self-esteem and confidence, down to 0. And today, I’m a shadow of the man I was 20 years ago.

    So yes, I know exactly how you’re feeling, and I hope things work out for you.

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    GirlFriday
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    Sergio01, sorry to hear you are in a similar situation, until I found this website I genuinely thought there were hardly any others like me esp after a long term break up.. it’s awful some of the real life stories on here.. I thank my lucky stars I have my health & both my girls supporting me & trust me although it feels like the whole world is caving in there will always be someone worse off than you .. A close friend discovered she had breast cancer whilst all this was going on for me & it really put things into perspective.. Hang in there 🙂

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    Sylvia38
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    Sergio01

    Thats terrible.Be strong and hang on in there.I’m the same as you and it terrifies me when I see people out and about happy .I can’t picture myself starting again either.Im definitely not the same person I was but I’m so pleased I joined here as a lot of people are in the same boat

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    Kanger1
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    Hi

    I am about 3.5 months in and now weather is nicer it just seems like the world ia full of couples holding hands and looking loved up! 😕 i am at a place now though that my rose tinted glasses have been removed and I see how bad my marriage truly was and how we didn’t work as a couple so my ex hubby has done me a favour! But…where do you start? My friends are all busy with their family lives so I have started using the meet up app (can recommend) and already been to a couple of meet ups, I guess its a case of putting yourself out there and saying yes to any invite which will help you find you again and appreciate you. 🙂 keep going foward and there are always ups and downs but each week gets a little easier.

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    Gamerdad101mk
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    Evening all

     

    I must admit i’m finding it hard this weekend, me and my ex wife had a planned family holiday this week with the 3 kids and i’ve been finding it hard as I forced to be removed from our family home in January , so i’ve been working as many extra hours as i can this week but the weekend is going to be the hardest as I only see my 3  kids on a sunday and they don’t get back till Tuesday

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