How do we move on .
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29 January 2019 at 10:49 pm #20244
Hi I’m a single mom of 4 who has recently separated from her husband who is been with in total for over 23 years .. so my question is what now ?? How do I make new friends, meet new people,, find people who are leading similar life styles .. thanks in advance for any advice x30 January 2019 at 3:00 am #20249
For me, the answer was through after school club and holiday club. Most of the mums there are in the same situation, so they need wraparound care.
Plus I do park run on Saturdays – my sane hour – and plenty of the other runners are doing the same. But my son is old enough to be left for an hour.
After 23 years I can’t imagine what that feels like. I had the advantage of being relieved to be single again so coming home to a calm house was such a luxury that I didn’t mind being on my own for a while.30 January 2019 at 7:53 am #20253
I have been lurking this website since my husband left on the Aug bank holiday getting lots of help & useful advice but finally took the plunge & signed up today to reply to you. My husband and I had been together for 23 yrs married for 15 and it’s come as a complete blow to me. I swim and I have downloaded the ‘meet up’ app which shows activities near you but haven’t quite got the courage to try any of them out yet! I am really lucky I have a small group of extremely patient and loyal friends, it’s the evenings/weekends I struggle when my daughter is off doing what 14 year olds do as I am trying to keep things as normal as possible for her – She doesn’t want to see her dad at the moment.
Happy to chat30 January 2019 at 12:30 pm #20278
I am exactly the same boat as you. Mum to 4 boys and husband walked out 4 weeks ago after 23 yrs together. Still trying to get my head around what is happening but finding it tough. I have no family/friends where I live so feel incredibly lonely. I am not very confident so find it hard to meet new people and make friends which is what I need to do. I am lucky in that my kids keep me busy but I need to start building a new life for myself again which is incredibly scary!30 January 2019 at 1:12 pm #20283
Thanks for the reply’s I’d be very happy to chat and make some friends going through similar xxx30 January 2019 at 2:06 pm #20285
Would be good to chat with you too and make friends as our stories are very similar x30 January 2019 at 3:57 pm #20291
I came home to the divorce papers for signature today and thought I was doing well as it didn’t make me cry (everything else seems to!!).. Just makes me sad that one little signature and the life I thought I was going to have will be wiped away …31 January 2019 at 5:21 pm #20377
Been told this website is good to meet new friends also list loads of different things you maybe interested in:
Good luck all 🙂1 February 2019 at 5:12 pm #20453
Gosh, so sad to read these. We were married for 14 years, and he ran out on me to be with my kids teacher!
It is such a shock, I believe we go through grief, the 6 stages of it, shock and sadness being the first 2. I literally found it hard to breathe some days with the pain in my chest.
Know this, you will be fine, we all will, in the end. I started running, my first run was 0.7 miles, but I kept going and then joined a ladies only run club, I am now branching into a both sexes run club!!
It is scary, your whole future is uncertain. But you will be fine.x1 February 2019 at 5:45 pm #20455
Hi Abbottpip36, I know what you mean about the shock for me it feels like he is dead.. He walked out & other than 1 horrid visit for him to take stuff out the garage & another phone call that’s really been it for contact. I am having to email him at the mo as the house is sold but having a mare with a missing piece of paper! Once I am out of here that will be another chapter closed.. I do seem to have managed a week without crying but it all still makes me feel sad I thought we were going to be married forever 😕1 February 2019 at 10:41 pm #20465
Hi im maria im in the same boat my daughter has been in out of hosp last 18 mths having brain surgery i got back one day to a note he left took our shih tzu dog never heard off him since hes left me in big mess and having to leave my home too. I wud love to chat to make new friends x1 February 2019 at 10:43 pm #20466
Hi id love to chat my husband walked out unexpected and its hit me hard x1 February 2019 at 10:49 pm #20468
Hi ladies. New to the forum. Can relate to all your stories ladies, but mine didn’t walk out I chose to end it for various reasons about 2 years ago. We were married for 15 years. I’m mum to four. And it is so hard to keep everything going. Some days I feel so overwhelmed with everything I am dealing with that I want scream.
I work and that’s whats keep me sane at the moment, it gives me time away from the madness which is my life.
I get what some of you say about the uncertainty about the future, this is not what I had pictured 20 years ago. But it is what it is.
Most days I feel I’m not a good enough parent, I feel like I’m letting my kids down. And maybe I should have been the one to have left.1 February 2019 at 11:18 pm #20473
Hi jaru its really hard i feel the same as u some days i never expected my life be like this x2 February 2019 at 4:19 am #20477
Hi. I found a social life again through work. Not even the job I do now (teacher) I took a part time job as a barmaid at my local pub when I was newly single and it’s amazing how many old friends I reconnected with and how many new friends I made.
My boys go to their Dad’s every Friday night until Saturday night and I’ve got a lively social life. Never realised how isolated I became thanks to my ex when I was married. In hindsight I didn’t have a night out with friends for 5 years…youll find people through work, hobbies or your children x