Thank you for the advice. The split was not an amicable one unfortunately.
I agree, I have tried to tell my ex that we need to have a positive or at least a civil relationship with one another and encourage the children to have positive relationship with both of us. However he is “too angry” to be civil to me.
It’s so frustrating. I just want the best for my children and I thought with there now being no conflict or arguments in the house it would help but I think seeing daddy so upset might have made them view the situation with a different pair of eyes.
You’re right, they need a routine and back to school time will hopefully help but at the moment, my ex hasn’t provided any kind of pattern/certainty with childcare despite my asking him to and despite me picking up a lot more of it over the past few weeks. I don’t mind the childcare at all, but it’s not sustainable – the children need a routine and my employers will expect me to have a regular working pattern too!