im new to the forum and also new to being a single parent, in fact this is my first weekend without my little girl. I miss her like crazy and am desperate to have her back.
My question is, my ex has had 2 months to get his place ready, and yet he still doesn’t have a stair gate at the top of the stairs. Am I being unreasonable if I say she can’t stay there without one? She’s 2, so quick to run off when your back is turned! I’m probably over worrying but I just don’t get why he wouldn’t prioritise her safety.
Thanks so much Anonymous your advice made a lot of sense. I do think I’m letting my emotions cloud the situation a fair bit, so it was helpful to have an objective opinion on the situation!
the co-parenting relationship is already a little hostile so you’re right that I wouldn’t want it getting worse. My ex isn’t a reasonable man and if things don’t go his way then I get an intolerable amount of verbal abuse. Maybe pick my battles I guess. Good to know that stair gates are only advised up to 24months too!!
Yes she generally sleeps well and does seem happy when she’s with him. She’s quite clingy to me since all of this so I think the only problem will be if she is unsettled she will want me, but I don’t see a reason for her being unsettled. I don’t ever want to restrict him being on her life but I struggle when I don’t feel like she’s his number one priority.
I try to get everything in writing, so text or email. I hadn’t thought about handing over in public places, but that’s a good shout, it would stop him trying to create arguments for no reason which he does almost every time.
Thanks Anonymous, it’s easy to think you’re the only one going through this when it’s the dead of the night but in reality there are loads of people that have been trough this and are currently going through it!