How do I have no contact with my Ex but he see’s our children?

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    S0manthax
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    Mt ex is toxic. He’s constantly being rude or aggressive and I’ve had enough. Whenever there’s an argument or a disagreement he gets nasty. He’s told me I should kill myself and a number of other horrible things. He’s never been physically abusive but verbally he is horrible. I do not want contact with him but he’s still my daughters dad and has never done wrong by them. How can I refuse contact but still let him be apart of the kids lives?

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    bkbk86
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    The only advice I have is to look up stonewalling as that’s the only thing that helped me. It’s not the answer to everything and I wish I could help more but I can tell you that you arent alone.

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    bkbk86
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    Also I have known a few woman in physically and mentally abusive relationships and every single one said that the emotional abuse was more damaging. It’s harder to prove and you doubt yourself and dont get taken as seriously or get as much help unless it is physical too so it’s so isolating as well

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    warwickshire1
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    How old is your child? Theres many ways you can arrange contact without speaking to him, but would depend on age.

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    Greenfingers
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    Can you not arrange transfers to be done by 3rd parties? So you each name 3 nominates that will do transfers on your behalf in the same place each time, personally I avoided my own home, but used my nominates home addresses (during school hols), otherwise all transfers take place at school, ie I drop off and my ex collects, and the opposite way around. I haven’t physically seen my ex in over 12 months and it’s been lovely

    #47124 Report

    I honestly believe, it’s about building your self esteem and self worth. Realising that your needs are as important as everyone else’s. The reality is that you DO NOT have to have any contact with him. I would say, start by asking yourself what you need and how you can get it. Then put it into action. Little steps can initiate big changes. It’s all up to you.

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