How can i find out when my baby is born?

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    Krowe882002
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    My ex girlfriend is pregnant with my child she told me she has bipolar and a mental diagnosis. She told me the happy news back in January but then like she always has done when we’ve got back together, became distant then cut me out, didn’t invite me to any scans, never seen her pregnant which hes been heart breaking. Ive applied to the courts for access but left the birth date unknown, but had a reply from the courts that my application cant proceed untill his born but as she won’t contact me how will i ever know?

    #29037 Report

    Krowe882002
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    Is that the only way of finding out? Because that has been suggested and she has to legally registered him within 3 months but knowing her shell.leave it right to the last minute, which will be so hurtfull knowing the due date is nearly here

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    Mblessed18
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    I really empathise with you and it must be difficult to imagine that your baby will be born without you being part of this memorable moment. It’s not an easy situation. Having said that and from my personal experience as a mother, I struggled mentally after conceiving my baby, and I hated my sons dad so much and i couldn’t understand why, but the mistake he did, he kept pestering me throughout the pregnancy, and the more he pushed me the more I felt estranged towards him. As a result of this pressure, soon after my son was born he took me to court and within just a few weeks I had a nervous breakdown that meant I had to be hospitalised in a special unit with my baby for three months.

    All I can say to you is that your ex- partner is very vulnerable at the moment and it’s harder for her since she has an underlying diagnosis and I must say that any pressure that she maybe subjected to, it’s gonna crash her and your  baby will also suffer”in the process she is more at Risk of an emotional breakdown at the moment than if she wasn’t pregnant. She need more support now than ever before and after a little while when the baby is born, she may be in a better position to reason things out with you.

    You may want to also seek some counselling for yourself inorder to cope with the emotional stress that you are undergoing at the moment. Or seek support from friends and family.

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    Kathymumofone
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    Hi Crowe,

    I know it’s a bit obvious but have you tried asking your ex-girlfriend gently.

    You could put together a “baby box” of little things, perhaps a little teddy, a newborn baby-gro, a photo frame, and a card to your ex saying you want to give the baby some presents on her birthday, and it would be great if she could put a photo of the baby in the frame and send it back to you.

    Your ex will need all the support she can get at this time, and something supportive might work. I hope it does x

    #29090 Report

    Krowe882002
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    No I can’t ask her she changed her number, and if I go round there shell get the police involved i know she will, see all she wanted was a baby she didn’t care who the father was she considers it her own possession and cause of her mental diagnosis believe it’s her way or no way. She knows were going to court when hes born cause shed rather have 5 strangers decide his future as her condition stops her from being amicable all i want now is my hours so i can continuously be in his life and she can’t flake away like shes alway done when we keep getting back in contact its so sad really she knows im a very amicable person but cannot be herslf

    #29106 Report

    Krowe882002
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    I contacted social services a while back but the assessment came back no immediate concern as her self harming mental issue are historic. She had visited a mental hospital a few years back, so thats recorded but nothing since so he closed the case and his report will be submitted when we go to court, its just so heartbreak cause a lot of people know what shes like

    #29112 Report

    Kathymumofone
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    Is there no-one in your group of friends who will let you know?

    You could try posting her a baby box. No-one is likely to see that single action as harassment.

    Or as Solo says, leave it a while and then check the register of births. If your ex told you in January, 40 weeks plus 6 to register the birth takes you to the middle of November at the very latest.

    #29115 Report

    Krowe882002
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    Well we do have a joint friend whos in touch with her so I’m hoping he’ll let me know, if she doesn’t try and keep it quiet, its due on the 15 September, but the trouble is she sees this as her posesion and doesn’t want me to have any involvement thats been her actions through out her pregnancy and i dont think anything even a baby box would make any difference, its all due to her mental health condition where its her way or no way, but i do intend to be involved and am going for co parenting with child arrangement orders as my son has the right to 2 parents

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