I have been in a relationship for about 6 months now wit a guy 14 years older than me. He has recently started biting me even when out in public and when I say no he continues, he has also started accusing me of cheating on him even though I’m not he is still accusing me, he also drinks far too much he wakes up early in the morning thirsty so has 3 cans of beer it is actually all he drinks. I have to think of my kids and I don’t want to be with him anymore, but I don’t know how to say it to him. I’m scared he will get violent towards me, I know it is a cowards way out but can I message him saying something ? His family don’t like me and they know he bites me but just say I obviously deserve it. Please can somebody help me ? Thank you
Hi, my understanding is that he is not the father of your children. So, my question is, do you have to tell him something at all? his behaviour is totally unacceptable. Would it be possible for you to just have a safe place where you and your children can live, a new telephone number and leave? Honestly I don’t believe you owe him any kind of explanation.
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Honestly why don’t you put your children first because they need protecting. this random man is not their father and you have let him into your children’s lives..if he is biting you what do you think he’s capable of doing to your children?
Why would you let this man do this to you ? Get in your mind and abuse you so that you can’t focus on yourself or u our children.
I saw this nonsense with my own parents and I would not put my daughter through this.