How are we going to decide who is responsible for transportation for contact?

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    bekabyrne92
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    me and my ex partner are in court soon over child arrangement issues.

    our little boy is 1 year old.

    if a judge decides that it’s in his best interest to have overnight stays with his father it will mean a 200 mile trip there and a 200 mile trip back. Who will be responsible for this?

     

    is it based on anything other than being 50/50? I’m on a significantly lower income than my ex partner, yet I KNOW he will demand that I do half the journey.

    he has every weekend off work whereas I work in retail so I work most Saturdays and sometimes Sundays. So not only can I not afford the travel but I also physically won’t be able to travel as I will be working. Because it’s only the 2 of us that have parental responsibility, I gather nobody else will be expected to travel as that surely cannot be imposed?

     

    im really really worried. If a judge orders that I have to take part in transportation it means I’m likely to lose my job. A job I’ve done for 10 years and which I love. It will leave me jobless and with even less money than I currently have!

     

    what can I do? Has anyone been through anything similar? I just about make ends meet as it is.

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    Kathymumofone
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    You need to explain your hours to the court and to your ex. Point out that losing your job will hugely disadvantage your child.

    Also look at the mileage you already do. My ex wanted me to pay half the petrol for his 170 mile round trip until I pointed out I do 10 school runs per week x 7 miles, dr, dentist, swimming lessons, shoe shopping, parents evenings, sports days, play dates etc. 🤔

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    bekabyrne92
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    Hi Kathy thanks for your reply. I will of course make it known the hours I work and that I’m not able to travel.

     

    problem is currently my son’s nursery is only a short walk from my house and I don’t do much other travel as doctors etc is nearby also.

    i understand it’s a pain for my son’s dad that he’ll have to travel but will a court/judge take into account our incomes or not? X

    #36945 Report

    Kathymumofone
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    Who moved away, you or your ex?

    #36952 Report

    bekabyrne92
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    Me, I had no choice. He never let me put my name to anything on the flat we shared so I couldn’t stay there. I only moved to Kent to live with him and then he told me to move out when we split up. All my family is in the midlands so it’s where my support system is.

    He even specifically said he didn’t want me to stay living nearby, he wanted us to be further apart even if it meant him being further from his son

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