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    TwinMumHan
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    Hi everyone, My partner and I are going through divorce but at the moment we are still living in the same property which is jointly owned. He refuses to move out but would like me to move and rent.

    I don’t really want to do this as it would mean moving into (& spending unnecessary money on) a temporary home before potentially being able to buy a new place for me and my two year old twin girls. I feel it would be too disruptive for them and I worry about the impact on their routine etc. I therefore suggested that we move into my parents home for a while as we spend most of our time there anyway for childcare / social life etc but he’s not willing for this to happen as he think it’s unsuitable for the girls. Does he have any right in determining where I live?

    I would much rather him rent and me stay in the family home to give the girls consistency during such a turbulent time but he’s standing firm…

    Any help would be great 🙂

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    Anon87
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    Hi,

    I’m in a very similar situation with my husband after his affair.
    We own our home with a 5 month old baby and he simply refuses to leave the property.
    I have contacted the council, womens refuge, other charities and even my local MP, who cannot help because I’m 1. A homeowner and 2. technically not homeless.
    If I leave, I won’t get help with housing. If I sold the property and took equity, I’d have too much in savings to get benefits to cover rent or even be offered a home. If I moved to private rent, which is twice as much as my mortgage, I’d be in financial hardship. It’s just crazy….. my mental health has taken a battering. Not only do I have to live with a lying, cheating husband, but I feel trapped in a very toxic environment with my new baby!
    The lack of support I am feeling is shocking – I’ve worked hard my whole life, bought a home and yet someone who has never worked gets given all the help I feel I truly need!

    I hope you find your answers, I really feel your struggle!

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    AnotherStatistic
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    I can sympathise. I am still sharing a house I bought with my unfaithful, drug addict wife. Neither of us are prepared to move out until the house is sold so we’re having to sit it out. So painful. I’m trying to cope by limiting my time around her and splitting our time with the kids, such as alternating weekends. We have a long way to go until the house is sold. It makes it impossible to move on psychologically. Stay strong and do what you think is right for you and the kids. It doesn’t sound like he should be calling the shots

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