When my son was 7 he lost his mum and naturally he was very upset at her death and funeral,he has been brave and carried on admirably. He has had many mature innocent people unknowingly ask him about his mum and he has answered and coped well. 20 months on. Sadly last night at 7pm at a dinner,a boy of the same age who was in the knowledge of the circumstances,said to my son,”where is your mummy,oh yeah she is in heaven”. We all fell silent and the other boys grandad said,"he don
t need reminding of that”. My son managed to get through that moment but I wondered. We got home and I put my son to bed as usual without any problem. Half an hour later he came into the living room sobbing his heart out,”I miss my mummy”. I felt so hopeless and inadequate I just held him for ages not knowing what to say. Eventually I told him it was a good thing that he remembered his mummy and the times he had with her. The matter still seems to be unresolved and I wonder how many more times this will happen,what more can I do or say?