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    Ktb85
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    Hiya all

    I’m new to this and it was recommended I post on here to see if anyone can help.

    Basically,the other half has just upped and left,clearing my purse out in the process(yes reported this).I have spent all day trying food banks,churches,dwp,high interest loans as I have a daughter to feed and look after.

    We have no family or friends that can help,honestly advice from anyone would be grateful.

    And please don’t be nasty,we’ve all needed help at some point.

     

    Thank you

     

     

    #56181 Report

    Gumibear123
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    Of course everybody needs help at some point.

    No man is an island bla bla but I’m not sure about women.

    Hopefully your child benefit or anything else you live on will be coming in this week at some point at least? I could be wrong but I doubt in this country anybody is actually starving.Maybe Google soup kitchens near you for a start of you are left literally penniless for the mo.

    #56182 Report

    Ktb85
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    Hiya,thanks for the reply.

    Tried food bank,church etc and got nowhere.

    Yes child benefit comes.in but next week so got to think of something to sort us till then 😶

    #56183 Report

    Gumibear123
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    Well it’s only Monday so hopefully you can use todays.You must have something,well hopefully, in the house to tide you over.Is your daughter school age or older/younger? Just thinking,the school would be a great place to get some advice if you literally dont know a soul.

    #56184 Report

    Ktb85
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    My child benefit is paid once a month and it’s not due till next week.

    School have just directed me to a foodbank I spoke to who can’t help me because they’re miles away and I have no transport (they can’t deliver)

    #56185 Report

    Gumibear123
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    If you are left without a bean and no food then if I was you I would contact social services ,where you may admittedly starve to death b4 anyone gets to you.Next up is probably Jobcentre in the morning or the Moderator on here to direct you to help,but you probably know that already.And some budgeting advice for when your income does actually come in bc being short of money ironically can end up accruing extra expenses.

    #56187 Report

    Yazminpol
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    Try nextdoor.co.uk just register and explain your circumstances. I have seen some charitable deeds over the money months on this site

    #56188 Report

    Yazminpol
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    I meant over the months

    #56189 Report

    Ktb85
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    Thank you

    #56191 Report

    steve3334
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    Universal credit system give advance payments if your hardship, is my understanding. if things are so desperate then food banks probably a good option.  sainsburys have food banks in them.

    #56196 Report

    Ktb85
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    Hiya

    I can’t have an advanced payment again as paying one back from last year.

    The foodbanks in Sainsbury’s are collecting points for the foodbank themselves.

    Thank you

     

    #56197 Report

    Ktb85
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    #56200 Report

    Hi Ktb85,  I’m Sarah one of the Moderators here.  I’m glad to see you here posting.

    It might help to get some guidance via the Single Parents Helpline.

    Here are the contact details: Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline – Freephone 0808 802 0925

    Opening hours:  Mon 10 – 6, Tues 10- 4, Wed 10 – 1 & 5 – 7, Thurs 10 – 4, Fri 10 – 4

    They can be busy so callers can expect to wait up to 20 minutes before the call is answered I hope that helps a little.                                                                      Kind regards, Sarah                                                                                                                “”

    #56202 Report

    Munnkat
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    Hi Ktb85

    This sounds like a very stressful and worrying situation for you.  There are some places that would help I am sure.

    Have you tried the supermarkets? Morrisons I know do food parcels – I would go into the store and speak with a manager and explain.

     

    Depending where you live, there are some really helpful places in Medway for an immediate support and help with food.

    If you are on fb and your local community have a page, I would post in there.  Honestly whilst it’s a difficult situation, you are first and foremost simply trying to feed your daughter – so ask the wider community and  ignore all the unhelpful comments.

    You have got this!

    #56210 Report

    sirtobi
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    Hello ktb85,

    sorry to hear about your troubles. I don’t know where you live and it might be helpful to give us an indication of where about you are without givining the exact location, so we might be able to give better advice.

    My knowledge about the voluntary sector is pretty broad, so I can assume if you aren’t living in a very small hamlet, everything should be about the same as here up in the north. We have arranged things the way, there is one option at least every day of the week to get hold of a warm meal. It is either a church, the YMCA, or another charity which provides. The best way to start is to find out about your local homeless charities. I know, you aren’t homeless, but they will guide you to the nearest available point of access and of course will supply you with food even if you aren’t homeless. They will have a list of all foodbanks  and emergency supply facilities in your area. And of course, about every church has an emergency fund where you can get at least 10£ if you and your children are starving. The problem is they need to be convinced it is genuine, as there are unfortunately so many people trying to take advantage. The school should also be in a position to supply you with an emergency food parcel, as almost all schools have to supply food to self-isolating pupils at the moment.

    So please don’t take out any high interest loans as that will damage your position even more.

    I hope this helps.

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