Hi, just found this site. Need advice on cans/can’ts in terms of what my “ex” is ‘allowed to do” in terms of with his mistress. We have been together for 30yrs, married for 23yrs. I found out he’d been having an affair for past 9 mnths. He’s decided he doesn’t love me anymore. We have had marriage difficulties- he has bipolar & is an alcoholic ( in denial again). He has been unfaithful before, but i stood by him. This time he has walked out on me. He has been hiding a lot of things from me. He bought her an expensive crate of wine ( now returned). He has now booked a secret get-away to Monte-CArlo with her( found the confirmation on his phone) We have 3 older teenage kids. They are gutted, not told them about the holiday he has planned. Is he allowed to do this?? CAn’t seem to find anything on the net apart from the piece on “marital waste”. Can anyone advise please? What can I /should I do? thanks
Thanks for posting here, and welcome to the forum. It can be difficult to know where to begin when you separate. This online community can be a great way of making connections with other parents and I’m sure the parents on here will be happy to share their experiences and offer support to you. There’s lots of information on our website to help you understand what steps you can take after a separation: https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/information/separating/.You can also contact the free Gingerbread helpline on 0808 802 0925 to speak to one of our advisers about things to consider when you’re separating.