Holiday in exam time

[J1]

ex has booked to take child away for mini break abroad atvend of half term in middle of GCSE’S. Child and I very worried that child won’t be back for exams on the Monday and child has pleaded with dad not to go but he won’t listen or reply. His attitude is ‘it will be fine’. Dad has contact order so it is ‘his weekend’ but Child is 17 this year. Child is desperately worried that they might miss gcse exams if flight delayed. Child too scared of dad to blankly refuse to go. School are not happy either. Any ideas. Desperate. Thx

• This topic was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by J1.

[Kathymumofone]

Two choices really.

1. Go to a solicitor and ask to get a single issue order from the court, declining the trip while exams are on

Or 2. Make you and ds scarce when ex comes to collect him, so he he has to leave Without him or miss his flight/train/ferry.

GCSE age is old enough for dc to decide for themselves whether they want to go, so legally your ex doesn’t have a leg to stand on.

[J1]

Thanks guys…Child has told dad lots they don’t want to go but ex says ‘just chill’..Child has texted dad a heartfelt message saying same but ex doesn’t reply. I have messaged ex lots but I am told not to interfere /nothing to do with me…school have phoned him but he doesn’t answer. He has passport from previous holiday etc. He is untouchable. Child too scared to say ‘I am not going’..Child is very very emotional and has tried reasoning with him but he will make child go.

[J1]

Child has told him they don’t want to go many times both in person and by message. I have too. Flight is different to what he first said also. Now it’s two flights relying on connections etc. Flights are next Sunday..exams Monday. Believe me I have researched every flight back to the uk as alternatives just in case etc. You don’t know my ex! His wrath is vile. If child doesn’t go he will solely lay blame on me brainwashing etc and will take me to court for non compliance of order and even though  child is over 16 he will say I am bad mom/ affecting child’s mental health and try to gain residence etc. He will also deliberately disrupt any holidays I have booked and not drop child back or withheld passport. I am at the end of my tether.

[Kathymumofone]

I agree with SOLO, it’s time to make a stand with your child, or your ex is going to keep trying to control you both.

Perhaps call the lovely people here on the single parent’s helpline.

GCSEs are hard enough. Putting this kind of pressure on a child intentionally is bordering on abuse.

Good luck

 

 

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