Hi, I’ve had a cao put in place through the courts.
Myself and my ex came to an agreement that we would alternate Christmas each year. One of us had Christmas Eve and Christmas Day until 3.30pm and the other will have from 3.30 Christmas Day and Boxing Day. We then swap the next year. We initially agreed to let whoever’s Day our sons birthday falls on have him for the day and for the other to spend two hours with him. However I’d advise alternating this too. As I went through the next 8 years worth of the calendar and realised I will not have my son on his birthday from next year until he’s 13! So we have agreed outside of court between ourselves that we will alternate this too as it’s better for our son. It’s also then fair for both parents each year! Courts massively favour any suggestions that the parents can agree and put forward to them as it makes their life easier and they can see you’re putting your children’s best interests first.
Also with our own birthdays, we have had it put in that if our son is not with us on our birthday, we still get time with him which we then after court have agreed will be as much time as is available on the day.