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    Solah1971
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    Hi everyone, I’ve joined the forum as I’m a single parent of an 8yr old daughter. I don’t have friends or family to turn to. Also I have severe mental health problems. So I feel isolated slot, hence why I decided to join the forum.

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    JBLA
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    Hi Solah,

    Sending love & healing energy to you & your 8 yr old 🙂

    It can be beyond tough doing everything on our own, & think maybe by nature of how demanding parenting is, all parents feel isolated & alone at times, but please remember you are not alone in the experience – apparently there are 2.9 million single parent families (ONS) in the uk & ofc this isn’t counting folk who start new relationships/ become new or blended families, if our divorce or separation figures are anything to go by.. it seems maybe a lot more experience this too. No idea if it helps looking at things like this, but i find solace in knowing i’m not alone, even if i’m doing it alone or it feels lonely, & this can pave the way for hope.

    gentle hugs for your mental health (if wanted) & the extra layers of difficulties we overcome, i am neurodiverse too & have mixed-abilities… sometimes its just gruelling getting through each day, like carrying a rucksack of rocks in this marathon of life, on better days i can see it means we who experience these diversities are often 10 times stronger than folk who don’t have to live with this stuff or have more support and we are strong enough to often be more honest or vulnerable than most too.

    am sure you’ll find more folk here to relate to & re-build stuff that can naturally fall by the way side when parenting.

    much love

     

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    Andrew uk
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    Hi. This is my first post. My son is 9 my daughter is 4. I currently don’t see them. Yes it’s tough but there is hope.

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    Solah1971
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    Thank you so much for the replies. It’s good to know I’m not alone.

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    Louipat
    Participant

    Hi

    New here too , came on to try and release a bit of frustration, feeling at the end of my tether today, not real reason why, it happens like that some days doesn’t it!

    im a mum of a 7 year old daughter muddling through the summer Holidays xxx

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    JBLA
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    Hi louipat,

    Welcome 😊💙 eh indeed some days are…

    Ah my youngest is 7! It’s amazing how they sprout so fast… Yet still need so much & somehow perfected the art of whining & still being damn cute.

    Found it hard to get away this year so upto my elbows in craft, how has it been for you two?

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    Andrew uk
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    It’s not easy I know. Realising that others are going through similar,  sometimes worse, than me is giving me hope. The idea that we will come through this stronger because of what we have gone through also motivates me.

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    akatew
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    Hi all, this is my first post too and I’m having a rough day.  I have an 8 year old boy and sometimes it feels like he is the only thing that brings me any joy.  I do have friends and family nearby, but I still feel very isolated and depressed.  My husband left 3 years ago and I have my son 4/7 days a week. I also work part time and I’m lucky to have a good job, but finding it very hard to focus on it at the moment.  When he’s not with me, I feel depressed, lethargic, lonely, anxious and tend to get very self-critical.  I don’t really know anyone else in my position and feel like no one really gets it, or people are just waiting for me to get over it.  I find the holidays the worst – it’s better when we’re in the rhythm of the school term.

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    Andrew uk
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    Yes the routine of school helps. I’m not seeing my kids at all at the moment. I would gladly swap places with you! Try and enjoy the moments he’s not with you. You are a person not just a mum. I also feel like that. You are not the only one. We all go through it. Message me to chat more.

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    akatew
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    Thanks for replying Andrew 🙂 I know I am incredibly lucky to have so much time with him and I really hope it improves for you soon.  After all the events of the last few years I feel very low about myself, so it’s hard to enjoy the time without him.  I’m waiting for some 1:1 counselling which I really hope will help.

     

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    Solah1971
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    Hi Everyone, thank you for all your messages.

     

     

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