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    My marriage has broke down and my wife is moving out, this leaves me with the house and all bills to pay.

    I have 3 kids 6/4/2

    We will be coparenting 50/50

    Childcare costs 1000+

    I don’t know the bills or where to start.


    I cant work enough to be able to afford everything and can’t work out the entitled to calc as just shows £2 a month benafits.??


    Anyone know who or where I can talk/look



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    Hi Singledadof3

    Sorry to hear you’re going through this – it’s tough but you can do it. I’d start by taking stock of all your bills – find out your council tax (and make sure you have a single person discount applied), water, electricity/gas, etc – sometimes these are on online accounts only, but if you have a joint bank account you should be able to see how much these are currently at and all regular payments?

    Money Advice service is a good place to start too for some advice and help.

    Monetary help from the government will very much depend on your wage, but also take a look at what “extra” money goes out – for example, Netflix, Amazon prime, Sky, etc – you’ll need to work out what you really need and cut down any extras you can do without.

    Good luck – and remember to try and take care of your mental health however you can, it’ll help you make the right decisions for you and your children’s future. 🙂

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    Gingerbread Alex

    Hi Singledadof3,

    You may also find it helpful to contact our Single Parent Helpline. We have a team of trained advisers who can advise you on what benefits and other help you may be entitled to. They do get busy and you may have to hold to get through, but calls are free from mobiles and landlines.

    Here are their details and I hope this helps:


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    Chin up. The minefield that is bills and child maintenance etc does get easier to wrap your head around, in time. My advice would be; don’t try and conquer it all in one go, don’t beat yourself up for not feeling clear on it straight away, and tackle one thing at a time. I’ve been in my flat now for 5 months and am only just feeling as though I have got my head around it all.

    Best of luck!

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