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    <span class=”s1″>Hello, </span>

    <span class=”s1″>I’m absolutely heartbroken. I have been with my husband for 16. We’ve been together since we were 17. Childhood sweethearts, soulmates. I adore him. He was kind, caring, loving my best friend. He never lied. I would have bet my life on him being faithful. And spending the rest of our lives together. We had so many plans. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>Last September I knew something was different with him, he said that things had changed between us and the spark had gone and to work on it. We had two small children 4 and 2 ( the 2 year old was only 1 at the start) For months I caught him out in lies about a girl from work, found her knickers in his suitcase. He works away a lot for work so was staying away with her. In April he left and said there was nobody else and it was only because he didn’t feel the same. Since June we’ve been trying to fix things, having family day’s out, him staying over at the family home, having regular sex. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>He said that his feelings hadnt changed yet but still to try for the sake of our children and family life. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>Then my life fell apart again. I found evidence he had been having an a affair. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>He’s admitted that they both have feelings for each other. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>I’m devastated beyond words and I want to die. I can’t imagine my life without him. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>Then a few weeks later. He wanted to come back, said all the right things. That it was a mistake, midlife crisis that he got caught up and didn’t really have feelings for her etc. We’ve had a lovely Christmas as a family. Booked holidays for later this year, talked about getting a house extension etc </span>

    <span class=”s1″>Now he’s just said that he’s still in love with her, that he’s not in love with me. He’s been trying to stop his feelings for her but he can’t. That he wants his life with her. That he loves her. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>I’m so broken again and I feel so so empty. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>He came back and made me happy again, I thought things were great. The children are happy and feel happier. The children will really affected by this. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>Now he’s going to leave again and I’m going to be rock bottom and the children are going to be affected again. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>It’s going to hurt so much more now because I know how happy we are and how nice it feels to be together again. </span>

    <span class=”s1″>I need help.</span>

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    G.Eve.I read your post.

    You must feel like you’re in middle of a nightmare….Some people are unbalanced.They don’t even know a good thing when it hits them in the face.I will never understand why some people throw away their marriage just bc ‘the spark has gone’ or another bit of nonsense ‘I need to find myself’.It’s not all fireworks &(to an extent) the point of marriage is to lose yourself I wld think.I’m really sorry for your pain & the anguish you sound like you’re going through.

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    I have sent you a private message Heartbreak04.

    Take care.

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    Msg not appeared anywhere as far as I can tell.Hope all ok.

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