Help! Feeling threatened!

[JEGParticipant]

Help! Me and Husband been separated now 6 months – he left family home Oct 18 following marriage breakdown. I found out 3 yrs ago he was sexually abusing my sister who worked for our company. I decided to stay put and work through marriage at the time but unfortunately through his aggressive angry volatile behavior towards me and my children which was indeed mentally abusive I came to the point where I couldn’t go on. We are now going through early stages of divorce but he’s announced he’s moving back into our home this weekend until the house is sold!!!  Which could be months!! He said he’s coming back because he wants to and he can because it’s HIS house and because he misses the children! I’m in utter turmoil – I’d started to really recover and find myself again, regaining my confidence and the children are settled. I now can’t sleep again, can’t think straight and my stomach is churning at the thought of what I see is a Monster coming back and starting up all those old feelings again. Home had become my safe space and sanctuary.  Advice please????

[RamblinjonParticipant]

Hi, you must be going out of your mind, these 2 organisations can help:

Womans Aid 0808 2000 247

National Domestic Violence helpline for support on 0808 2000 247.

Mark

[JEGParticipant]

Hi Ramblinjon Yes I feel like I am! Thanks for advice and helpline no’s.

[RamblinjonParticipant]

Your welcome.

It might be an idea to change your username as this is an open forum which can be found easily on Google so your email address is available to anyone including your ex.

Hope you get things sorted.

Mark

[JEGParticipant]

Ok thanks will do.

Jsyne

[GingerbreadJustineModerator]

Hi JEG

I’m one of the moderators here.  I’m glad you have been given some contact details of organisations already.  I will be sending you a private message to see if there is anything else we can offer you.

Thanks, Justine

[SOLOMUMMYParticipant]

Hi

Did your sister report the abuse?

In your scenario I suggest that you:

• report the aggressive angry volatile behaviour towards me and my children – ideally with some dated examples to the non emergency police number
• consider speaking to social services

Without any of the above, your main options are to sit tight or you move out bluntly. Neither are great options, hence the need for you to report as this will not only increase the strength of the case to help you protect your children but would also mean you have good grounds to effectively deprive him of his home which you don’t have without.

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