Hi everyone, this is my first time using the forum.
My wife left me last week while I was at work after 22 years of marriage. No warning it was going to happen it’s shaken me to the core. She has left me with our 17 year old twins and our older daughter who stays home a few nights a week. I know they aren’t exactly ‘children’ anymore but I feel in desperate need of moral support right now and don’t feel like I’m being any kind of help to them at all.
I’m struggling to deal with the situation because since it happened I’ve learnt that my wife now lives in a flat which I have to pass every day on the way to work. And seems blissfully happy without us all in her life. She refuses to speak with me by text or any other means and because I can’t get to the bottom of it all I just feel in terrible pain constantly.
On a practical level I’m doing my best. She used to take care of all the bills and finances in general. I think I’m doing just about okay. My earnings are fairly average but I’ve applied for UC and hopefully will qualify for a little bit of help.
I miss her terribly, I’m confused and lost and so sad. Am I in the right place? If not I do apologise. I don’t really know what to do.
Hi Steve, My husband left the beginning of September and I later found out he is having an affair. It came as a complete surprise to me and He has been cold to me ever since. It’s extremely hurtful that 13 years together apparently meant nothing. It’s a total grieving process. Everyone says it takes time to heal from this or at least learn to get on with your own life. I am sure your more of a support to your kids then you think. Its hard to be up beat. I am relying on friends as much as I can for moral support but they can’t be with me all the time and it’s incredibly lonely. I hope your ok and I am sure you are doing better then you think. Give yourself a break your only human.
Thank you so much for your kind words of support. Tomorrow is a new day and I’m determined to make it better than today, which in truth has been hell. I’ve accepted she’s gone and it’s over whereas for the last week I’ve been clinging on to stupidly believing it’s just some horrible nightmare. But no, this is real. But I’ve still got my lovely children so I’m very thankful and know I’m luckier than some.
This isn’t going to be easy. But knowing this forum is here will definitely play some part in helping us through it. Thanks again.