Hello to all! – New Member to Gingerbread – Single Dad – West Yorkshire.
4 March 2019 at 10:04 am #21759
Hello to all! – New Member to Gingerbread – Single Dad – West Yorkshire.
Thinking of starting a supporting friendship group?
I just thought that I would say hello to this forum, never used anything like this before and I never thought that I would, but hey ho… what can you do? After looking and reading through some of the experiences that everyone chooses to share on here one thing stands out often (obviously & between the lines) is the real time human connection factor which people need to get out and engage with other people to help them forwards in whatever situation?
I know that being a single dad, juggling work, kids, school runs, household problems, ongoing problems from sources that seem to get you down from which you have no control over and you just have to keep dealing with one thing after another etc (I know the list is endless and everyone’s is different). When will it stop, who knows, but one thing is for sure we all know that we can’t stop and we have to get on and stay strong or just start to build up that inner strength needed just to keep moving forwards…all be it slowly.
Sometimes the last thing you want to do is get out and re-engage with the world and the first thing you want to do is get out there and engage because the slightest knock just sets you back, it can seem like that you are caught in a double bind. There is also the available time factor (some points stated earlier)….oh what can I do….what can I do is always prevalent? My thoughts go out to you all, whichever path you are walking, whether chosen by you or it was bestowed upon you, that’s not important right now, only moving forwards and gaining some self-worth and personal strengths.
I am a single dad of two great kids and I am thinking of creating some kind of support group to cover and reach around the Huddersfield, Halifax and Bradford areas of West Yorkshire, I am not quite sure how or exactly when, but I feel it is worth a try and would just like to hear if there is any like-minded people here on Gingerbread which would find it a positive thing and support it also? I am sure that the moderators will pick this up and point me in the right direction, but in the meantime please comment on this post and share your thoughts of what it would give you or your thoughts of what would stop you engaging in such a group.
Strength in numbers folks – share your thoughts?
Love and strength to you all – Give It a Go!4 March 2019 at 10:09 pm #21805
I love your positive attitude give it a go indeed 😊 and I hope you make a huge success in your friendship group giveitago. right now the world needs more healers, lovers and caretakers friendship covers all of those factors and I’m sure many people will benefit from your kindness and determined human spirit well done you!5 March 2019 at 7:44 am #21811
<span style=”font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; background: white;”>Hey Newbutterfly, thank you for your vote of confidence, it is much appreciated and kind of give me a little boost (I’ve never used online stuff like this before) and something to respond to regarding my idea. At the moment it is just an idea at the moment and it will be if it is a needed or wanted thing. All we need is a couple of folk to make a start and if you have made it here to Gingerbread you have taken a step in the right direction to improve things around you. It’s a cheap beginning of a new start at the price of a brew…..yes – yes – yes as long as there are toilets, parking and somewhere for the kids to let off steam….I know it well!</span>
<span style=”font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; background: white;”>Let’s put a shout out to any single dads out (single mums also invited to share in my idea) there in or around the Halifax, Bradford and Huddersfield area who are a bit shy in accepting the role of being a loan or part time parent and for them to share their thoughts? We are all in similar circumstance at varied points and extremes of life, but all the same, single with kids and most walking a path which we never expected to wander. Sometimes it seems easier just to look down and not stand and straighten up, look up and see into the distance, let’s just think we are blessed to make ourselves…….”just better” . Lets see what happens, drop the pebble in the pond and all that. </span>
<span style=”font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; background: white;”>I get the feeling that a lot of people look, read, share and directly relate in the experiences of other people’s life, but only to acknowledge that they are not alone, which in itself, I suppose can bring a kind of comfort in a sense. Let’s not be shy guy’s and it might not feel like a lot right now, but hey… the truth we are at this junction together, which is one thing and to get on and accept things as they are and improve is another and that is really down to the self. </span>
<span style=”font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; background: white;”>Newbutterfly – you immediately saw my intention and focus, thank you for sharing what you saw and picked up…. You are a sharp one, it must have been all that time you spent as a simple caterpillar gaining your foresight on life…..spread those wings girl!</span>
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</div>5 March 2019 at 2:41 pm #21828
Welcome to the Gingerbread forum and thanks for posting.
Gingerbread supports single parents to set up and run their own local friendship groups, so we can certainly help with that. We’d suggest you search your local area for groups as a first step here .
There is an enquiry form you can fill in online so our peer support team can get in touch if you’re interested in applying to be a group co-ordinator.
We hope you find the support you’re looking for on this forum too.
Rose5 March 2019 at 8:09 pm #21838
I intend to! its a shame I live so far away as I for one would gladly be a part of your new journey I make a mean brew and have got great big broad shoulders or as I now call them wings!10 March 2019 at 3:30 pm #22018
That’s a great idea. I’ve recently separated from my wife after she cheated on me with a male friend. I’ve got a rather small friendship group and am concerned I’ll struggle to get back out into the world. I’m situated between Bradford and Halifax10 March 2019 at 5:45 pm #22021
Hello Ashbarron, sorry to read about your situation between you and your wife, I do hope things get better for you! The group idea at the moment is just that…an idea. I can’t tell you when or where it will be and I am seeing if there was an interest regarding a single parent friendship/support group. If and when it does happen I will do it all through this forum, so anyone will know. Thank you for your show of support and take care.12 March 2019 at 9:35 pm #22085
Hiya am a single mum to a 4 year old son hes never meet his father. I live in Barnsley.13 March 2019 at 7:41 am #22088
Hello Sarah0407 in Barnsley.16 March 2019 at 3:00 pm #22216
Hiya. Nice to hear from you. Iam 40 and have a 4 year old .12 April 2019 at 4:57 pm #23442
I am new to this site too-not new to being a single parent though, been doing this alone now for almost five years. I am from the Huddersfield area and a group around here/Halifax/Bradford as suggested sounds like a great idea!!! Whilst I have plenty of friends I’m the only single parent and often it’s hard for others to fully relate to my situation, would be great to meet others who just ‘get it’!12 April 2019 at 5:17 pm #23443
I would be happy to meet up.14 April 2019 at 11:04 am #23495
Hi, I’m from Barnsley, South Yorkshire and I know the issue you’ve talked about, because I only see my son every other weekend I want to spend every minute I have with him but I’m finding I’m not doing anything for myself, when he’s not here I sit at home wishing he was.14 April 2019 at 12:29 pm #23502
Welcome to the forum 🙂16 April 2019 at 8:29 am #23628
Hello Alexbell, wellshdad and JRR-Rob,
Alexbelle; I am hopefully going to be setting up a group soon and one which you will be welcome and we are not too far from each other. I have just received the forms from Gingerbread explaining how to go about the process to set up a group and hopefully I can get it done over the Easter hols. I will do everything via Gingerbread and announce it on this forum when everything is in order. I understand what you say that a group of people who just get being a single parent and all the different things which have to be factored in which relate to, or have a direct bearing on …just getting on with life.
JRR-Rob; The weekend on then off is a difficult thing at first, but will get better as time goes on and on a positive note it will allow to be more efficient in planning a great weekend with your son when he is with you. It is tough and I am sorry to hear your situation, but stay positive because it does sound like you already have a working plan between mum and dad, which is great for your son. Maybe you could get in touch with Sarah (hello Sarah) who is on this post who is also from Barnsley.