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    Hello, my name is Louise, im 33 and I have just signed up to gingerbread. My husband left me on the 26th Jan. we have two children aged 8 and 5. he is now living with another woman and her 3 children. I have found this year incredibly difficult especially as when in lockdown, you don’t have any emotional support around. Also…….I am just about to finish a 3 year full time degree. I just wanted to reach out and talk to people going through similar things and share emotions and feelings as when you’re alone, everything feels wrong and your fault. It would be nice to talk to someone. thank you xxx

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    I’m new here too. Feel free to talk me and share how you are feeling. I’m sorry you’re going through a very difficult time. A few days ago my husband said that he thinks we might be over. We have a 5yr old and a 3 month old baby. This news, a new baby and lockdown makes things extremely tough. Now I feel alone, trying to work out where it all went wrong and clinging on to hope that we can work things out. It’s all a mess. Talking to people really helps so again feel free to send me a message if you want to chat.

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    Lockdown has been a massive struggle for us all so I can only imagine how much worse it is for you right now!!! I know its easy for me to say but I promise you it will get easier. It will take time and not happen over night but it will. I can understand how hard it is for your little ones to grasp any of it but they are resilient and will soon learn you were there and looked after them no end… i can guarantee that from my own personal experience.

    If you wanna chat you can always message me

    Tony -x-

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    My Partner left me 7 weeks ago after 16 years together. I’m at home with our 2 year old. I totally understand the loneliness especially during lockdown. I’m here if anyone needs a chat. I’ve found these forums really comforting knowing there’s so many people with the same problems and struggles. Everyone is so supportive and unlike some other forums I went on there is no judgement on anyone’s situation.

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    Montana noyzz

    This world is funny,

    I gathered from what you said, that you don’t want him to leave ?
    Were u separate led and living at the same house ?
    I m looking for flat now because my partner wants me to move out, after 5 years of relationship, now we have the most beautiful daughter and I’m really worried her mum is gunna stop me from being a dad and not see my daughter,

    I don’t know Louise, it’s just crap! Excuse my language,

    but j think everything happens for a reason and as long as you are well and healthy and have friends and family to talk to them everything will have to be fine because we humans can get things done when we want to !

    my names Ryda

    believe me I’m really struggling mentally and emotionally but I’m trusting life x

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    Nina B

    Hi Louise,

    My name is Nina, I’m 35 and have a 15 year old daughter and two sons, 10 and 9 months.

    I really understand what you are going through, especially the emotions that you have about your husband moving on so quickly. My husband did the same, he moved out on 10th January to “ learn how to be the best husband and dad he could possibly be”, signed up to tinder in the first week of being alone and is now shacked up with the woman he went on his first date with! And her kids!

    We have been together forever, I was 16 and he was 20. We’ve grown up together, and although it was my decision to separate (there was a lot of emotional and sometimes physical abuse), I am so lonely and feel so sad and quite gutted that he moved on so quickly, especially as that wasn’t the reason for the separation!

    lockdown is making all this a million times harder. I’m desperate for a night out but for now, a chat with someone who understands what I’m going through, will be amazing 😉

    Stay strong, Be happy x



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    Hi Louise thanks for posting. Good to meet you. I’m new to Gingerbread too.

    My husband of 20 years left in summer 2019 after his girlfriend contacted me whilst we were abroad on a family holiday. as far as I know he’s still with her now. His contact with the children is sporadic and he sees them briefly now and again, though he pays legal minimum maintenance regularly.  I’m here with my two adopted daughters who are 10 and 11 years. I’d just about got on my feet after the split when lockdown happened. Felt like a bad joke! I do have kind friends but they are married and I don’t feel they really comprehend what my life is like, especially now in lockdown.

    I think you’re doing an amazing job as it’s so soon after your split, your children are still little and you’re studying too. Respect!

    I’m here if you fancy a chat at any point.




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