Yep been/going through exactly the same thing. When your child is three, apply for the 30 free hours nursery entitlement. That saved my life as up until then even working full time I was eating into my savings. Definitely get something from the father – child maintenance plus half the nursery costs if you can, and if he can’t afford much at least you can negotiate down. See if you are entitled to working tax credits. They can pay up to 70% of nursery fees. I also got everything of value together in my house and sold the stuff on Shpock/eBay/car boot sale etc. It might not be what you want to do but it was good for me as I cleared out some clutter, made some cash and felt like I was starting anew. I got a water meter, switched gas suppliers and petitioned my letting agents not to increase my rent to save money day to day. Check out Money Saving Expert online which is good for saving money and also freecycle. Try and make a budget plan up until your child starts school so you can see where you will be at with finances. Have you got friends around or support groups you can go to? Good luck.