Hello again – need some adult conversation !

[Gummibear123]

Hi,thanks I’m bored out of my brains most of the time so it’s nice talking to intelligent people on here.

My 12 year old absolutely hates school.It’s really awful.She is turning into a grumpy old bat and it’s unpleasant.She cannot cope with the ridic overload of schoolwork & the allotted homework & is so stressed she would be absolutely screaming and banging doors at 7:30 am already bc she’s petrified to be late.For GDs SAKE is That what school is about? Well it’s an early welcome to the adult world but it’s a shame ! Childhood shld be a  happy time and 12 is still a child.That one needed to grow up on a farm.She’s always got peculiar projects brewing under her bed,some cottage industry or other….she absolutely Adores any animal or insect of Any shape or form.We’ve had lots of local wild life sharing her bedroom obviously withot my permission but I feel really sorry for her.she’s creative,original and rarely conforms.and it’s being squeezed out of her and mod t of t h e next generation of entrepreneurs.The curriculum is certainly not there to serve the kids. Pile of old garbage in my opinion.Phew, feel better ta!

[Ali.saa]

Hey!

Hope you are doing well.

Melly mel

Thanks for asking

I do feel better about my back I massaged my back every day and I also want to make warm compress.

It might be helpful to relief my pain. This is exactly my fault coz I lifted heavy weight with high reps! It’s so crazy but I did😐😐

It is so funny that I made beer at home and you know this situation makes me do that but it is so good and I do like it 😁 it is foamy because of sugar on bottle and the taste is also good.

Our situation is extremely difficult and this kind of things would be awesome to cope difficulties and I found this things really really helpful.

 

[Ali.saa]

@Gummibear123

As a father and as a man, I think having doughter is really difficult. It is more difficult  when she hates the school because I realized the school is the only place for kids to spend their time in the best way possible.

The best part of your message was about positive point you mentioned about your doughter 👏👏👏👏 that she is creative 👍

I hope things get better for you

[Gummibear123]

Thank you for your validating words!

I think as a mother and a as woman that having a daughter is very scarey.When they’re small they look very cute but then when they get older they can be…very…scarey.

You sound like you come from somewhere else.It must be very difficult managing your situation where English is not your first language or mbe where you didn’t grow up.

I think you’re very brave and your son is lucky to have a father who cares so much for him.My son isn’t so lucky!I

Hope things get easier for you.

[Mellymel]

I hear you Gummibear re your struggles with your daughter.  12 and the teenage years are looming or there in everyway but name maybe.  Hormones have a lot to answer for!! And I’m guessing you are experiencing or will be (sorry!) the other side of this.  It’s a helluva cocktail.  (Whilst I imagine I would have liked to have a daughter I also think it may be for the best as I don’t have a good relationship with my mother, as she didn’t with hers and I probably would have carried that on.)  She’s wanting her independence I imagine? It is a shame about school pressures.  Growing up today with the increased pressures of body image with social media.. yikes.  Sending you beams of encouragement and support.  But also maybe we -the primary carers- just worry so (too?) much.. how do we stop that tho??!!  Do we want to?  Like Ali says its great she has that creativity and individualism and a mother who gives her the space to let them flourish. xx

[Ali.saa]

Hello there,

Hope you are doing well.

<span style=”color: #1a1919; font-family: Lato, sans-serif; background-color: #fbfbfb;”>@Gummibear</span>

Hundred percent your son is lucky to have a wonderful mom like you!

You get what you think about, so think well, think more about positive points not negative 👍👍

I’m completely on my own and yes english is not my first language and I had many many struggles on my life but I think there are lots of points which I can enjoy from it and one of them is spending my time with my son.

 

 

 

 

[Gummibear123]

Thank you for your kind words in the trenches here,very much appreciated!!!

Single parents are some of the most enduring,brave,heroic people I know.🤗

[Jen D]

Hi everyone … just read through your lovely messages…just got round to logging into laptop and checking my emails but really got to get to bed myself asap. Both boys are fast asleep and I’ve relaxed a little bit … they’re better now at settling down because I ended up moving the little one back into his old box room for a couple of nights as they were really taking the mick! lol Now they’re back together again and despite all their fights want to stay in same  bedroom.  Was just reading re your problems with adverbials and computer home learning…to me all that side of it is a nightmare as I really don’t see the point .. it seems like getting to access the work is harder than doing it and lots of new jargon has been invented for maths and English that wasn’t around when I was at school. Has anyone seen that post on facebook re the Biff and Chip stories and all the members of their family trying to work out what an adverbial is? Even the teacher Mrs May is relieved that noone actuallyknows what it means! lol I was chatting to a friend at a distance on her doorstep when someone passed who interrupted to tell me she’s an English teacher at secondary and she thinks the way they teach all the structured English at primary basically knocks all the creativity out of them then kids know all the terms but haven’t a clue how to write a story of their very own lol. Really agree that being on your own with kids is EXHAUSTING simply having all the responsibility and all the stuff to do!! Need to go to bed but don’t get chance in the day much to even contact anyone lol So good night to you all and keep in touch…thank you for all being there as I think we all feel so ALONE at times.

[Mellymel]

Heya,

Not getting notifications of new posts anymore..

Jen D, Yes, totally what you said..all that..and those bloody adverbials!!   nuts education system imo.  And, like you say, kids no longer, in the main, having the creativity to write stories..

In saying that they’re back there in 2 days!!  Just had a horrible hour tonight..buttons being pushed and whilst I felt my blood BOILING I didn’t act out or shout anywhere near as much as I have done before (finding strategies that are beginning to work for me.).  Through it now.

How’s everyone else doing?

Much as I’d like to do something fun to celebrate the end of our lockdown time I asked my son what he wanted to do and it was just have pj time and mooch around at home, which, with an attempt at a much-needed walk at some point, is what we’ll do I guess.  Doubt I’ll be posting on Fb an obnoxious family photo of how well everyone has done, just saw one and I wanted to vomit!! oh dear, I need some rest!!  well, no more guilt at starting our homeschool late, or descending into chaos before the first ‘lesson’ is out!!

HHuuurraaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh.

May some peace and rest return to us all.  Well done us all (and those little dears 😉 it’s been bloody horrid for them.

Love Melissa xxx

[Jen D]

Hi Mellymel and all of you

Just had to check work email and thought I’d quickly tap into this … thank you for your reply

Off today with some time to myself for the first time in a year! Done food shop, and about to clean up I’m sure the house smells and there’s stuff everywhere! Something to do with dubious carrots found at bottom of fridge! lol Anyway going to sit and have a brew now which will be lovely. Hope you’re all doing ok? I’m thinking of booking a trip in a caravan or if there available maybe one of those Singles with kids trips? Has anyone else done anything like that? Thinking it sounds like holidays in Britain are going to get booked up pretty quickly. Well hope you have a good day xxx

 

[Mellymel]

Hey Jen,

that sounds like my fridge!!- it’s always the carrots isn’t it, so sweet at the beginning then it all goes wrong (after a long time admittedly!) Lol.

Hope you enjoy your time to yourself.  Quite a strange feeling isn’t it?

Re hols, I had looked into those single parent hols, they do seem like a good idea, but the ones I found seem to be pretty expensive, well, out of my budget anyway, like way over £1k.  Maybe you will find something cheaper, or have a bigger budget than me!  If it’s the former let me know!!  I’m thinking of what we’ll do this year.  We just did an air bnb in Torquay last year and it was nice to get away, be by the sea.

[Gummibear123]

Hi.

Not sure where/when you’re thinking of going but if your happy to just fit your holiday in when tickets are cheap and your ok going just you & kids,it’s poss to get fantastic prices with airbnb’s.

Last year I took 5 of us to Venice for £140,I thought that was amazing,then the apartment cost us aprox £350 for nearly a week…I found that a joke compared to a lot of British holidays we tried.I find it interesting that further doesn’t always have to cost more nowadays.

[DavidM]

Suppose im the only one that sees the irony in someone asking for adult conversation and everyone starts talking about kids?;p (yes okay, with a more complete vocabulary;p)

I was expecting Politics and broken waterheaters and whatnot!

[Gummibear123]

To be fair,a number of people have said they no longer have the skills needed to make normal adult conversation…..unless this Is adult conversation…?

oh.I don’t even know anymore🤔

 

[Ali.saa]

Hello everyone 😊

I hope you are doing well and being safe!

I was so busy with my son unfortunately and I had no chance to come here and give you report about my daily routine 😆😆😆lol.

His hand is so weak for writing and painting so I searched on Google and different website to find good and useful exercises 😑

 

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