Hi BigA LittleB, What I mean is that in a very perverse way, supporting my child through self-harming gave me a sense of purpose soon after the split. I don’t mean I’m glad this has happened, but it made me realise what really matters to me. It’s very early days for you and I guess you will need to work through different emotions (your own and your kids) for a while to come. But I really do wish you all the best and hope you and your children can overcome this eventually be happy again x