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    Kate1212
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    we have a baby, still married, and going through custody litigation. I’ve been told he has a new gf – I know what he does now is his business but it’s still painful esp I know my baby has been around the GF. I feel baby shouldn’t have introduction until it’s serious not weeks in. What are your thoughts?

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    SOLOMUMMY
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    Morally I don’t agree with introducing children to new partners early,  however it’s the other person’s parenting decision which unless you have a coparenting relationship where you can raise the concern or there’s genuine safeguarding concern you can not do anything about it .

    Just hope that he learns from this before baby is old enough to be affected.

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    BluebirdSue
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    I hate to tell you this but now he is a single man he probably will be dating etc I think its mentally easier for a guy to do so.

    I know its hard to hear of his dating news while you’re left holding the baby. My ex married within a year of us breaking up but its cool because 1) I no longer wanted to live with him and 2) marry him. It still kind of hurt though.

    I don’t think he would want the baby around his new gf. He will be thinking the same as you and just wanting to agree on shared responsibility.

    When that’s done you can start to move forward then 😀 hope this helps

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    Kate1212
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    @bluebirdsue thanks for your response, baby has already been around her which I find uncomfortable atm especially he hasn’t told me I’ve just been shown by third parties 🙁

    youre right, I think guys can move forward easy and disconnect, it’ll be awhile for me yet as I’m enjoying finding ME right now but these little knock backs throw me from time to time.

    I hope there’s something out there who can guide me for this recent knock.

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    Kate1212
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    @solomummy I hope he learns from this too.

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    BluebirdSue
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    Yeah there is not a lot you can do. Let’s hope your ex’s judgement of character works well. You and him have worked things out and it seems like a clean clear split which is good for you all. You’ve got a child that you can cherish and make nice memories with. Best of all you are smarter than me and know to focus on yourself. I wish I had such self worth when mine was younger. But I was a young mum then. 😀

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    Ramblinjon
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    Hi, as a dreaded cold heated bloke (lol) I can assure that it’s not only men that can move on quickly, my side of the bed didn’t have time to get cold before my first wife shared it with someone  (my best mate as it happens) and since then the a number of gfs moving quickly on has happened a number of times, some folk move on quickly but some don’t, it all depends on the person and the circumstances not whether they are male or female.

    Regardless of who moved on its inevitable that the other person gets hurt by it which overflows into other things like it being hard to come to terms with when the new partner meets the children, there’s not a lot that can be done though if there isn’t any real safeguarding issues and in time you may get to see it as a good thing, my boys mum introduced her latest bf to my son and I was over the moon with her choice and was more than happy for the bf to spend time with him.

    Mark

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