Having problems due to being a keyworker.
9 January 2021 at 10:44 pm #47926
We are now onto our third lockdown and I think this is the most difficult one. I am a parent of two girls aged 8 and 10 years. I am also a key worker as I work as a support worker in a college with learners with additional needs.
My one daughter has a pending autistic assessment in late January. We have only been waiting for this since March last year. She has mental health issues as well and at the moment is refusing to go to school since the start of the new lockdown.
My work has not been great. I have been loads of unpaid over time, expecting me to go and get a lateral flow test on my days off and one minute saying we can work from home. Then the next day changing their minds and saying we may have to support in college, and therefore will be required to have regular lateral flow tests. It’s a nightmare. All for less than minimum pay as I work term time only.
As I have mentioned earlier my daughter with additional needs has refused to to go to school and
I have been signed off for9 January 2021 at 10:50 pm #47927
I have been signed off for 2 weeks as I had covid in December and therefore I am still recovering.
My options are furlough. My employer will probably refuse as I am a key worker.
Flexible hours – I can request working from home.
Leaving my job but I won’t have any money then. Also universal credit may sanction me.
Continuing to be off on medical grounds. I could say I am suffering from the covid symptoms or state that I have high anxiety due to the situation Not ideal but it maybe an option.
I am discussing this with a union next week but I just wonder if anyone is having similar problems. I am really scared.9 January 2021 at 10:54 pm #47928
can the childs dad help?9 January 2021 at 10:59 pm #47929
No. I’m having a lot problems with him at the moment due to domestic abuse and he lives a long way away. He would never help me.
My mum and dad are elderly and therefore they are shielding.
There is no wrap around care at their school as well and I am unable to afford a child minder as I have already paid the fees for breakfast club and after school club, which has been cancelled. It is isn’t very easy to find a childminder as there aren’t many in my local area. Also I would need a very clear plan which college aren’t giving me.9 January 2021 at 11:11 pm #47931
Just cut all the complications & say u still need recovery time.It’s most likely true And if it’s not, who cares at this point.If you don’t have anxiety yet this situation will def cause you anxiety in the future.This covid business is all a shambles anyway, your sanity is the most important thing now.Any1 secretly agree?10 January 2021 at 10:06 am #47949
With your little girl try a bit of reflexology and fish duet . My child is much calmer and goes to school .she is autistic but try10 January 2021 at 10:08 am #47950
Different approaches like massage and fish oil. I know it’s not the answer but do try this as my child is really well behaved with not many melt down s. Good luck andnstay safe10 January 2021 at 2:54 pm #47961
Thank you Gummibear123 for your reply. I may go down that route as my health isn’t great at the moment and I am struggling. I have just been in a supermarket, as I could not get an online slot. I found it really difficult to breathe with a mask on, die to the covid symptoms and the fact I have asthma. I am going to speak to my union on Tuesday for advice.
Reflexology sounds a good idea but I am not sure if I will do it right. My daughter used to be so well behaved at both home and school but since the lockdown she has struggled.
I think it hasn’t helped that school weren’t very good at supporting her and have only recently started helping. She was suppose to have Emotional Literacy back in September but it never happened. She is finally going to have half an hour a week one to one. She has really suffered with the 3 lockdowns and now finds it difficult to leave the house.10 January 2021 at 3:15 pm #47963
I’m an absolutely Appalled at what the schools have got away with.It’s dusgustung.Trouble is most parents are too exhausted and resigned to starts fight but it’s been a Disgrace.aNy son was in a special needs place at the beginning lockdown1.I got an envelope the inappropriate English work dumped in my doorstep & ONE phone call asking if he was ok & that was it.I’ve since removed him from that dump & been homeschooling….well not Much,but likely more than he Was doing😉10 January 2021 at 4:09 pm #47973
This is sad to hear , our school has been open all year round and my child has had 100 percent attendance since last year .
Try reflexology or foot massage after bath when she’s in bed . I hear what you are saying but it would help if you could get her back to school even if it’s part time .also lavender oil is something i used. My child use to wake up at 2,am and it was hard to get her back to sleep10 January 2021 at 4:23 pm #47976
Nah,useless school.They really don’t give 2 cents about the kids.Its much better for him to be out of there and a civilian again.I need a future for him not a complacent morass of ….complacence.I find some of these places have no expectations for kids and get away with minimum effort.I need to see progress.I appreciate we need to be happy but we can’t just rolll in the mud and be happy pigs can we? Progress is hard work & dedication.Without that my son has no future.This is a pet peeve of mine.Thank you for listening.