Has anyone sort counselling for themselves after separation?
2 April 2018 at 10:02 pm #9500
Even though I’ve been separted from my husband for a good 7weeks now I’ve found this past week emotionally tiring maybe coz I currently not at work everyday. But I no I can’t carry on feeling this way both for myself and my children long term as now I really do have to put them first. So I was wondering of anyone had sort counselling for themselves during a separation and how easy/expensive was it too do something like this. And did it help?2 April 2018 at 11:06 pm #9504
Yep, I did. I got it through occupational health where I work. I don’t have any contact with my children. It made me stronger to work towards that aim. But it takes time and I’m not there yet.3 April 2018 at 7:37 am #9510
Yes I’m having counselling. I had a couple of months off work (largely because my ex also worked at the same office as me and was refusing to move, so I had time off while i was transferred to another office). I found a local charity that provides low cost counselling for a limited number of sessions. Full price is £42 a session which I couldn’t afford so they’ve offered me a few sessions at £21. It’s still a stretch but is doing me a lot of good.3 April 2018 at 9:34 am #9513
Yes it definitely helps. I found having someone that is totally impartial, and being able to say all the things that you can’t say to family and friends was what i needed. I found a lovely lady via a local google search, was £35 a session. She was straight without being unkind, and none of that ‘tough love’ those closest want to dish out.
AJ, snap! Except I still work with my ex……oh and now his current girlfriend, talk about awkward 😂😂3 April 2018 at 2:03 pm #9557
thankyou for the reply I’m going into look into the options here. The job centre lady directed me.to a charity here that does it so going to look into that.3 April 2018 at 8:52 pm #9564
Sparkie – wow! I really would need a lot of counselling if I still worked in the same place and had to see his new partner aswell! It was just so awkward as it was, not just for us but for colleagues and mutual friends aswell. Makes me feel so fortunate that I work for a big enough organisation that I could move.3 April 2018 at 8:52 pm #9565
Hey, i think I really need to do this, I saw one lady but didn’t get a good vibe from her and apart from that all I know about is relate? Are they any good? My ex has moved on and has a new gf he’s going on holiday with for 2 weeks and we have only been apart 5 months so I’m finding it hard to move on but feel I should’ve by now… sparkie I work in the same company as my ex too so I get where you’re coming from! Totally awks!!🙈3 April 2018 at 9:30 pm #9566
Maybe give these people a try first and see what they suggest.
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I’ve spoken to them myself so I know their knowledge is strong.3 April 2018 at 11:43 pm #9567
Relate was good for me, circa £60 per hour (I think income linked). They were pretty good in my early days when I was still in shock – caused by learning by accident/fate that wife was having affair. I only had two sessions to help me decide I wanted a divorce. Actually thinking about going back, as I am now in anger phase. Either that or take up boxing/karate. On second thoughts, I better go to Relate…!4 April 2018 at 5:45 pm #9593
For a variety of reasons, changing jobs wasn’t an option for me. We get on in a professional capacity because we have to, I’ve made sure of that. It’s not been awkward for others as I dont discuss what happened, only those closest to me know the details. The counselling helped there too, as jeez did I need an outlet and some direction when their new relationship was made public. I was determined to take the high road in it all and in the long run it’s paid off.
But yes, find someone you’re comfortable. The counsellor I saw was the second one I spoke to on the phone, couldn’t tell you why I didn’t go with the first one, I still don’t know lol.