Happy ending please
4 October 2019 at 11:05 pm #31137
Hi only been on this forum for a short time and it seems like it’s all sad posts which I know a lot of us are feeling and going through a tough time and this is what’s this forum is for which is great and does help…but if anyone on here has a happy ending post they can share it would be nice to here. I know if all is well then your probably not on here much now…but it would give us all a bit of hope for the future…thanks.4 October 2019 at 11:33 pm #31139
There is no ending even after overcoming adversity there are good and bad days, the hope is to learn from experience and try to do better next time you face the same challenge, but every parent whether separated or not receives new challenges every day… Its just a case of learning better strategies when facing them.
For many on here the hope will be to feel safe, and /or for their kids to be safe and happy. To be honest once those are in place everything else begins to fall into place but things dont magically have a before and after where its all bad then suddenly OK… Life has its ups and downs and in time you learn to deal with things differently that’s all.5 October 2019 at 1:25 pm #31155
I can tell you that things do get better. 6 months ago, almost to the day, I separated from a 20 year relationship, 15 years married and 2 kids. It was a really bad time, but you do get used to it. There are benefits – my relationship with my kids is better than it’s been for a long time, and I now love myself again; you can rebuild your life, and sometimes it takes a bit longer, but you can and will get there.5 October 2019 at 6:27 pm #31173
Hi soccer dad…that’s good to here.6 October 2019 at 1:34 pm #31202
I have a happy ending. We split when son was 3 for a number of reasons. I found a job and a (grotty) I bed flat and got back to work.
Son is now 11, he’s happy, we have a home with a garden, & friends and a good school. I have a job I like and the hours and school runs work at the moment.
We could do with a bit more money and it’s tiring, but isn’t that always so. I can pay the bills. We are safe, warm, happy and settled. My ex sees son every week, and both seem content with that. So it is possible.6 October 2019 at 1:55 pm #31203
Just to clarify my previous post, as it came across negative. It is possible to get to a good place compared to before, and be happier and stable. The point about it not being an ending is that adversity always throws something your way, but what is different is your ability to deal with it. You learn to adapt and dealing with things as they come becomes much easier, especially once you have built a good support network around you. To echo the words of Kathy and Soccerdad above things will get better for you in time, but it will be as a result of you becoming stronger and more able to deal with things as opposed to bad things not happening. You are going to be OK 🙂6 October 2019 at 3:02 pm #31204
Separating is never easy but after a 12 year really rocky relationship it’s the best thing I did for my children and myself. There is still contact with their dad and he’s not always easy to get along with but all I have to remember is what I have now and how much life is better now6 October 2019 at 3:51 pm #31205
I’m not sure if this is a happy ending for myself but my boys mum and I split a long time ago, the first few years were very hard, especially as we took the decision for him to live with me which she found very difficult. For the past few years though there’s been a complete turn around, we now work very much as a team to ensure the best for Jonathan. I see my ex as family and while there’s no romantic involvement I feel very close to her, that happened because of that’s the right thing for Jonathan. Jonathan is thriving, happy and living a great life.
So for Jonathan yes it’s a happy ending, for me I’m still waiting, my time will come though just as it will for all of you.