Governments new support bubble

[Cheshirecat87]

Hi,

I’m just looking for some help on the support bubbles the government has just announced.

Myself and my husband are seperated and he now lives with his parents who are aged 67, one who has high blood pressure, throughout this lockdown my ex has been a key worker so the children have stayed with me during lockdown whilst I have been on furlough, their dad visiting every other day and also having facetime contact. Now the government has announced the support bubble my ex has been in contact to state that the children will now be staying with him overnight from saturday due to the governments new announcement, I am still confused on what has been announced because he is living with both of the children’s grandparents, he is also still been seeing his girlfriend who has kids and I’m not sure if her kids have been going to their dads, it’s supposed to be a support bubble but I will not be staying over with the children where their dad resides.

I’m unsure what to do next and I feel very stressed and pressured by my ex. Do I allow the children to move between households where there is 2 grandparents and their dad living in the same household and he is also working as a key worker?

Any help will be greatly appreciated, thank you.

[Mum2aTeen]

Hi Cheshirecat.

Gosh this must be so difficult for you and I can imagine the tension it is creating.

I’m not in this situation as my ex isn’t on the scene, but my understanding is the current situation states that kids can go between parents freely, so the bubble thing may not be a factor.

I would guess that if his partner is a single parent, she can mix with him under the new rules. But then there’s the question of if she’s mixing with others as she too should only be mixing with one household come Saturday, and you may never know that! Where does it end! It’s not easy is it!!

[moni]

Hi there, i am in a similar situation. My ex works for the nhs , lives in a shared household,  and has been pressuring me about having the kids there overnight . They have been otherwise in contact playing at the park, walks and bike rides frequently..with the new support bubble will be more pressure as if he is aloud to form a bubble with us , that means as well none of his housemates should mix with other people..and how can i be sure of that …

[Cheshirecat87]

Hi Mum2ateen, thanks very much for your reply, I’m just confused over the grandparents announcement, it says if you are alone or a single parent you can form a new support bubble with another household but it doesn’t say anything about 2 grandparents living together, it’s a very complicated situation we are in because he is living with his parents and he is still a key worker whereas I’m furloughed to look after the children, you are right though, I dont know who she has been mixing with and where does it end, I have my suspicions that he has been seeing her throughout this lockdown which he says is non of my business, it’s all very stressful.

[Cheshirecat87]

Hi Moni, it’s a horrible situation isn’t it, I feel for you, it’s so hard knowing what the best thing for the childrens safety is, I have been pressured by my ex throughout all of this, him even stating that he will take the kids and he said this in front of them which upset my eldest. You can’t be sure can you Moni and how can we trust their word, I’m not sure if your ex is trustworthy or not but mine definitely isn’t and he can lie about anything.

[Mum2aTeen]

I think it only applies to those who live alone or if you are a single parent.

But the fact you are a single parent means that you can mix with another household – irrespective of how many are in that household, but they can’t go and mix with others then.

I think the government recognise that us single parents are isolated too even if we have a child living with us.

[Cheshirecat87]

I’ve read aswell that if the parents are seperated then they can form their own bubble individually if they or the other person fits into the category so in other words the children can then have 2 seperate bubbles, so my ex can form his own bubble with his girlfriend because she is a single parent living alone and then take our children to her house with her and her kids being there, this doesn’t  make sense, they should just stick to one support bubble for now and then introduce more slowly.

We are very isolated aren’t we Mum2ateen, its hard work.

[Ck2617]

Im confused on it to. I’m a single parent who lives with my parents who have serious health conditions. If my children go see there father and form this bubble, he has a large family who have partners. Many of them work as key workers. I then have to take my children back to my parents home taking the risk of bring back this virus.

Does my childen really have to go considering the virus is still killing people

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