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    Hi there,

    I am going through a tough time at the moment and came on here looking for support and advice.


    I have a court hearing at the end of this month. Its for a child arrangements order. Has anyone one here been through this process? I can not afford a barrister so am going it alone. any advice would be much appreciated.



    #19130 Report

    Hi Steve3444

    Thanks for sharing your experience on the forum.  I hope that others will be able to share their experiences and advice.

    I’ve also sent you a separate message with some signposting to organisations that might be able to help.

    Take care


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    Hi. Thanks for info.

    I heard that in these courts, it’s the norm to let father have 50/50 contact – every other weekend and half of school holidays.

    But I am a contractor and not able to take time off for all school holidays, as it will result in loss of earnings. So do you think it’s possible I will be allowed to see my kids every weekend, including overnight stays?



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    Hi, thanks for the info. My solicitor was insistent that it is possible to get every weekend, in his view. He said because my wife does not work and therefore spends the majority of time with the kids. I am only going by what he suggested but accept that there’s no certainty of achieving this. Anyhow I cant afford to pay them more crazy legal fees so I told them to stop representing me.

    At present, I have been restricted to seeing my kids for one day a week, for a few hours.

    Also, when I was together with my wife and kids, I took one week off every year, to take them on holiday abroad. Unpaid leave. (Working throughout the year is not very healthy :). Would still like to do this. And there’s also 2 extra days I take off for religious occasions in the year. So I don’t think I am waiving the holidays and living costs completely.

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