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    hi, I’m new here, I’m 42 and about to start the ivf process alone!

    sone might call me mad, but I need to fill this huge gap in my heart.

    I have not been lucky enough to find the right person to do this with so why not!

    Is there anyone else here in a similar position?

    id be interested to chat

    #27445 Report


    I didn’t go through IVF but I knew pretty early on that I’d be raising my child alone.

    If this is what you need to do, go for it. Good luck


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    im 39 and was lucky enough to be successful on my first attempt . I’m now 12 weeks . I was dumped by my partner after pregnancy was confirmed . I’ve also been made redundant . So now single and unemployed . Heartbroken and over the moon at the same time . His loss he loses out not me. And so glad I have a child now. Men come and go. It will be hard but worth it x

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    I am a pregnant at 39 and 32 weeks pregnant through IVF and sperm dononation. I am really happy as I was told I didn’t have much chance of conceiving due to low AMH levels. Although, it can be abit daunting at times like everyone else who is pregnant. My family are supportive of my decision. I have not met anyone suitable to have a child with. I was in relationship a couple of years ago. But, it was abusive. I live in the West Midlands.  I became pregnant by IVF first time at Birmingham Women’s Hospital. Hope everything work out well.

    #29414 Report


    Best. Decision. Ever.

    If you want a kid and you haven’t met anyone, then you’re doing exactly what you have to do.

    I didn’t go through IVF, I went IUI as I was lucky enough to catch it early to do it more ‘natural’.

    People don’t realise that fertility runs out for women, and it happens rather fast. But if you want to be a mum and your kid so badly, then that baby will be the luckiest in the whole world. You’re not mad and your child will be loved so much he won’t even mind not having a dad. I’ve always thought I’d rather my kid has no dad than a crap one. You won’t have to fight over names, school, values and how to raise your child, you will have total freedom. No fighting over where to spend the holiday, your choice!

    so yes, at times, it can be lonely, but I’d rather be lonely than being miserable in a crap relationship. Besides, when you have a kid, trust me, you are never lonely. This little person is gonna hog all your free time! for the best but sometimes with tantrums haha.

    And if you meet that someone special later in life, you’ll have no baggage, no crazy ex to hide in the closet.

    Just get organised with your finances, your support system, what you can and can’t do, get all your ducks in a row and you’ll smash it!

    Congratulation and best of luck.


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    I’m here too 🙂

    30 weeks. 39 years old. IVF and sperm donation.


    Absolutely thrilled. I had a string of long relationships with men who didn’t want children, were in messy situations or who turned out to be alcoholics/abusive and so the years passed and I found myself single again. Time was almost up so I took the decision


    I’m thrilled


    If you want to chat drop me a DM.


    Wishing you the best of luck!

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