11 April 2021 at 9:14 am #52672
I’m looking to go on holiday when covid restrictions are lifted with my little boy. He has his dads name on birth certificate and I haven’t applied for a passport yet – I will be doing that soon. My question is, would I need to (a) have the same name on his passport as per birth certificate and (b) do I need to get consent from his dad to take him on holiday or will the birth certificate be enough to show that I am the mother?
I just feel like having to ask for permission to take my son on holiday considering I’m the main carer, I am being controlled. We don’t have an amicable relationship at the moment and we only speak when it’s to do with our son because we have to.
thanks11 April 2021 at 10:12 am #52673
If you don’t share the same surname as far as I know you will need his father’s permission..I would carry the birth certificate with me as well just to be on the safe side. I think the name on the passport has to be spelled the same as on the birth certificate.But to save yourself grief , maybe call the passport office to hear it straight from the horses mouth so to speak because these things seem to change over time.11 April 2021 at 10:53 am #52677
This is something I have been looking into recently and have contacted citizens advice. He hasn’t been around for 2 years and I have no contact details for him.
I was told I’d need permission from him, or I’d have to apply to the court for permission every time I went on holiday at a cost of £240!! The only other way would be to get a residency order, but we’d both have to go to court. This would allow me to take the child away for up to a month without permission.
it is a minefield but if you haven’t got the correct permission and are stopped or dad finds out you’re taking the children out the country without his consent he could report you for abduction.11 April 2021 at 11:04 am #52678
My sister carries the children’s birth certificates and a letter of permission from their dad when she travels, easier for her as she’s not separated, but she travels with them alone (or did before covid) a lot. If you are the children’s main carer, can they change their surname? I don’t know the law, my children have my name so I don’t have any trouble going abroad luckily11 April 2021 at 11:33 am #52680
My kids and I have the same surname and I’ve taken them abroad by myself several times over past 10 years.I have never been asked about permission from their dad or taken birth certificates with me.(We’ve used planes,ferry and Eurostar,many different companies) I think it’s only complicated when the child has a different surname from the adult it’s travelling with-as Lulublue mentioned abduction.Or when court orders are involved.11 April 2021 at 12:53 pm #52681
There’s a lot of information on the .gov site.
you have to get permission from anyone with parental responsibility, regardless of what surname the child has. It didn’t really help me, as I don’t have contact details for dad, but I’m sure the .gov site will be useful to your situation x11 April 2021 at 12:59 pm #52682
Thank you everyone, it certainly is a minefield as I’ve heard different things from different sources.
My friend took her boys away last year and the kids have different surnames (they have fathers surname). She just had to show the children’s birth certificate at the airport.
Just a little confused, will look on the government website though x11 April 2021 at 2:22 pm #52683
So if I kidnap my neighbours kid,as long as I have their birth certificate and passport,I’m fine.How strange.But on the up side,they could return the favour.The law is odd isn’t it?
My 15 year old was traveling with a friends family once from u.k and I got a phone call from airport she was coming home from to make sure I had permitted them to bring her back.(fortunately for them I said yes😉) But the way out had been fine.
Looks like it’s best to be prepared for any eventuality.11 April 2021 at 2:33 pm #52684
It is odd – just saying what happened, I guess my friend (the mother) was on the birth certificate so it wasn’t questioned too much apart from seeing proof on the birth certificate. This is why I was asking on here to see what other parents experiences have been.13 April 2021 at 3:50 pm #52780
There’s a little bit about passports in the holiday section of the info pages within the Gingerbread site. Have a look at the FAQs section:
Hope that helps
Michelle14 April 2021 at 10:16 am #52804
Thanks Michelle14 April 2021 at 11:25 pm #52848
do you have any kind of contact with your ex? you could mention holiday abroad and see if he will agrees to it. if not then you could apply to court to seek permission to travel abroad. if you get an order that states child lives with you, then you can take child abroad for up to a month without fathers permission. you won’t have to apply to court every time you want to take a holiday abroad.