Hi everyone. Currently writing this as again I cannot sleep for worrying. I’m due to give birth on 7th December. I already have a 6 year old, she will be 7 when I give birth. My panic is I think il have to give birth on my own and have no one to send my daughter to. My children’s dad works/lives away and before we knew I was pregnant he signed a contract to do a pantomime late November through to first week of January, but now of course this crops up right in the middle. He has told the company when I’m due etc and they’ve only given him 2 days off! And the pantomime is 1 and a half hours away from where I live. So I’m panicking about what I’m going to do and what I’m going to do with my little one. When I was in labour with her we were back and forth to the hospital 3 times before they let me stay in and I don’t want to be in that situation again and having to take her with me. My parents work, my mum works Monday – Friday and my dad works 4 days on 4 days off, mornings then evenings. I have a few close friends but they all have children and their own jobs and lives etc and I don’t want to burden anyone with my child aswell, also she has school so I don’t really want her missing it. And my children’s dads in-laws are not about so I can’t ask them. If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice I would be grateful as this has been causing me bad upset and worry for weeks now. I know it’s a while off but I know it’ll fly round in no time and il be in even more of a panic.
You do have people round you. Just ask for them to be on standby and if needs be they would have to leave work and accompany you. They could make work aware of your dye date and im sure when someone rings their work saying your in labour no one would grumble and people would help you. You are not a burden you are pregnant and have a little one already how can you take your daughter with you during labour
Have your family not already discussed this with you? If you are concerned firstly talk to your closest family and friends and surely they will rally round
Have you considered hiring a doula? This is a special maternity nurse who is there to support you in labour and birth. If anyone else is able to support you they can do as well but she could be a constant support to you.
Thank you for your messages. I think my main concern is what to do with my daughter. I’m going to have a chat with my parents again and see if they can be my standbys as I don’t massively mind giving birth on my own as the Midwife’s were amazing last time. I also think a doula will be very expensive unfortunately