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    whitestreet
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    Surely means getting under the next? I’m 25, suffering from lockdown blues. I have shared legal custody of my 17 month old son after the end of a rather horrible relationship, in which I was cheated on for 12 months! I would just like to meet some like-minded people, exchange some stories – occupy myself in this quarantine madness. If you’re an older lady or a mother isolated, maybe in need of some conversation or company then your message will be especially welcome!

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    kandyfloss
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    hi,

    I feel your pain. I am an “older lady”!! Was with my partner for nearly 30yrs and he cheated on me back in 2011-13, thought we got over it. But then when we moved he did it again . So he moved out and away from where I live with the children , so he could be near his latest mistress. He still continues to lie about things. Not yet divorced & stuck in the process of financial settlement! Feeling very lonely despite having my kids here. Yes, its very depressing sometimes. You have to find and do things to make yourself feel more worthy and happy. Its hard, and you have to make yourself do these things. Try not to let the ex spoil the rest of your life (easier said than done as I’m still struggling!) It seems like your world has crumbled, and theirs is all hunky dory. It feels like they don’t give a dam about you and your feelings and future. Stay strong, don’t feel down about what you can’t do or what you should be doing. Baby steps is the way . Life will be tough for a while. You are young enough to be able to look forward to getting out there yourself and meeting someone else when we’re out of this, but don’t rush! I have realised I have to start looking at the world of online dating- which sucks! At my age its not where you expect to be! Thought I’d be retiring with mine & looking forward to more years. Not to be!

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    whitestreet
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    It’s a grim time for a lot of us to not have any form of distraction outside of home life unfortunately. I love being a parent, but at the moment I feel limited to how well I can even do that! Although, I can’t imagine the stress of having to go through the process of a divorce after all that, let alone with all this shit going on. Hope he’s left with only the clothes on his back. Things will get better I’m sure. Sending my best to you and your lot!

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    Jalder
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    I’m in the same boat, split with my girlfriend of 13 years just before the lock down. We had just moved into our first home (mortgage) and she decided she no longer is in love with me. We had been together since we were 16 and only ever been with each other. We’re both 29 now and having to move on. As it was her decision I’m the one that is mentally struggling with it all. We have 2 children aged 2 & 8 so not only is our relationship over but our family & home is now broken. I’m in my parents and even though I’m exercising, walking I see the kids every day I still can’t get passed the anxiety of losing everything. My mind is in constant thought and I really struggle to switch off. I’m half scared of the lock down finishing as I feel like she will be out there ready to move on while I’m moping in my old bedroom at my parents. Life just doesn’t feel fair at the moment.

     

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    whitestreet
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    It certainly doesn’t!

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    Liane
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    I dunno where I am in my ‘relationship’.

    I met a lad on plenty of fish christmas 2018 things went well until about 3 months ago.

    It was all wierd. Nothing ever planned or structured always felt like I was begging him up. We kept stale mating with each other.

    So a few months ago I opened myself up again. Booked up a few singles events via date in a dash, went on badoo. Arranged a date in Bethnal Green and then corona lockdown hit. All the events I’d booked up for cancelled.

    Then, the crunch line, this lad messaged me. So I gave it a second pop. He came round spent the night and has now vanished. His left me feeling very used.

    Im not bitter. I had plans before the covid hit to go out and socialise more and no doubt as soon as the lockdowns lifted I’ll do excatly that but I’m not really the one for second chances and its all just made me feel wierd.

    Roll on for lockdown to be over so I can forget this situation.

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    whitestreet
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    There isn’t any distraction at the minute, for a lot of us anyway. Hopefully the next announcement is a good one and lockdown is over soon.

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