So after finding out from my girls that they’d spent the weekend with ex’s new gf and that she’d slept over (and he had been all over her in front of them, which they really didn’t like), it’s also emerged that he allowed this woman- whom I’ve never met- to look after our youngest whilst he took our eldest shopping. He has known this person for less than 2 months and our girls have met her twice. Has anyone else ever had this?! I’ve contacted my solicitor as I’m really, really angry that he saw fit to do this. If I had left one of our girls with a man that he’d never met, he’d hit the roof!
Sadly, if your ex has parental responsibility, he can leave your kids with whoever he thinks appropriate even if you don’t agree. My husband left after having a whirlwind affair and moved straight in with his new partner who he had known for about 6 weeks. She has an enormous extended family – including an ex who has a history of domestic violence and regularly turns up to collect his kids- and I hate the fact that my daughter is being left with all these people that she doesn’t know and I certainly don’t. But because her father has parental responsibility, he can decide whether he thinks it’s appropriate and I can do very little about it. Sorry this doesn’t really help and I do understand your anger but i’m not sure that the solicitor will be able to do much!