6 February 2018 at 9:35 pm #7457
My daughter has been fighting for her son for 2 years she never gave up the fight she never got any support. My daughter was 16 when she was pregnant and was advised wrongly she didn’ want to live with me she wanted to be independent so she asked for help from social services. They put my grandson on a section 20 things weren’ work well with foster carers one foster carer went behind her back and wanted to adopt her son she was badly abused. She fronted up but no one listened till to the end. Sadly my daughter went to a friend who thought be a suppot as she know him for a number of years as the professionals were on Annual leave and she was told she couldn’t see me too much as didn’ shoe independent she fell pregnant again. Her son is being adopted she never neglect her son never abused him it was because of my past of depression they tried to pull out the bag bit it wasn’t me it was just a excuse to take her child. She’ been very strong but now they want her second child she never left her daughter side but yet again no support she’ not handling it well this time all she wants to be is a mother. The father got in touch with her on what’s app she was up front with it but went against her. I’ trying to get special guardianship but the solicor never replies to her calls this is the second soiltor. It hurts when you get force hope and your left with nothing my daughter will be 20 this year. It’ very tiring I support her the best I can but when there is nothing left and you have no energy and Its just going on deaf ears what do you do. Don’ know what to do. She’ been parenting classes she’ been therapy. She doesn’t want to say good bye to two children let alone one. I’ not saying because she’s my daughter but she’s a brillint mum. All she wanted was to encouraged and be independent with her children.6 February 2018 at 10:00 pm #7462
Khaleesi Mother Of DragonsParticipant
I’m really sorry, I don’t have any experience in this field but just wanted to say that I feel for you and your daughter and grandchild.
Are there any specialist support groups for mums who have had their children removed? Have you checked facebook etc? Maybe have a look on Twitter and see if anyone is prominent in this field?
Sorry to not be more help but hang on in there. We must never give up on our children.
K7 February 2018 at 1:36 am #7467
I am so sorry that you and your daughter are going through thus i have been through the same thing my daughter was removed from my care 10 yrs ago and she now lives with special guardian her nanny and i have had no help and was bullied by ss all the way through. I have had my other 2 girls with me joint custody with their dad all the way through this.
Here is you ever want to talk
Louise x7 February 2018 at 11:10 pm #7491
Thank you for the kind messages. I won’ give up on my children and grandchildren. Sadly the group on Facebook about force adoption isn’ very helpful and I rarely use Twitter. I’m trying to find a parent support group but it’ waiting when there next on which is a pain. I would do any for my family for my daughter to be a mum. We all make mistakes but learn that’ what makes us parents. You don’ get a Manuel to be a mum but aren’t these professionals meant to support you not destroy a family. Thank you Louise and k5 December 2018 at 12:00 pm #18466
jamesalexParticipant5 December 2018 at 2:17 pm #18469
You or your daughter may want to contact Family Rights Group for specialist advice. They advise parents and grandparents about their rights and options when social workers or courts make decisions about their children’s welfare. You can contact their free helpline on 0808 801 0366.